A well meaning person: You matter.

Emotionally traumatized people: Even when I am *not* beneficial to you?.
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People say they care. However if you had past dealings with walking dumpster fires pretending to be people, and there is lot of that everywhere, your first reaction might be to doubt these claims instinctively, regardless of who expresses that.

All too often people say they care when really what they mean is:

"I care as long as it doesn't inconvenience me at any point"
"I care as long as I don't have to put much efforts in committing to fixing problems"
"I care as long as you don't expect me to be there for you, the way you were there for me"

Does this sound familiar in the slightest? For your sake I hope it doesn't and as you read through my thread you see nothing but edgy cynicism.

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SW-User

I think it would be good for people to consider what they say and what they should expect, particularly online. People move very quickly online and words that come too easily can be given too much weight by vulnerable ears.

To really care, beyond basic compassion, requires time. You don't just start really caring for someone overnight. Similarly, someone who professes to care for you after a matter of days or weeks likely won't be there for you beyond a certain point. They meant well, that's all.

Miram · 31-35, F

@SW-User

In time, you stop expecting from almost everyone..Online AND offline.

It is unhealthy to keep attempting to attach hope unto others, but it is also inevitable for indifference to create issues which can affect you in the real world. If not caring was inconsequential, my whole take would have been far different.