Due to my husbands stroke he cannot speak.

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No, it is the interaction with you that benifits.

Yes it could be too much reminding him his inabilities

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It's quite difficult to have any conversation when he cannot answer questions. He is in a nursing facility and it's difficult for us both.
I am a senior and know his inability to speak makes him sad. I had a thought to try and use children's flash cards. Alpha and Numeric. And ask him to pick out the letters to spell his name. THIS just to see if he has understanding of what I speak. Or to pick the numbers I speak on command.
My question is, Do you think this would have him feel this demeaning for him? Due to his anger issues I cannot bring him home and feel safe.

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Callmewhatyouwill

My father went through the same thing. He is fully aware. The problem isn't understanding it's making the words come out. The children's flash cards would possibly insult him and I know that isn't the intention.

Best could be using flash cards in the short term (normal adult ones) and get him speech therapy for the long term.

I've been there it's difficult. Probably more so for him. Imagine being unable to communicate yet being mentally 'all there'

Carla1951 · 70-79, F

My last visit was a little embarrassing for me. He wanted to kiss, which we did. Then pulled down my Tee shirt to see my boobies. (it made me laugh)
NOTE we weren't alone as many others were also in the Patio area.

Carla1951 · 70-79, F

Sibo191 Before he was released from the hospital he was given speech therapy. He refused to cooperate because (my opinion)he was ashamed of the garbled words that came out.

silentwriter180 · 51-55, F

@Carla1951: Good to see he still has a sense of humor :-)

Carla1951 · 70-79, F

@silentwriter180 Yes this is true.

Callmewhatyouwill

@Carla1951: I understand. But even if it's not official therapy you can work with him on it yourself. Just motivate him with boobies

Carla1951 · 70-79, F

@Sibo191 It does give a huge smile.
I even suggested we go to his room and I could gift him a BJ. With a very sad expression he pointed and indicated he wasn't able. I assumed it might be they may give a medication to prevent the men form errections?

Callmewhatyouwill

@Carla1951: I wouldn't know. But doubt that specifically. Between the huge trauma of the stroke along with the stressful situation plus the mix of meds he is getting probably has a negative effect on Mr winky