That’s my girl ☺
My chicks are sensible. I don’t know how it happened really as I’m just now getting to where I can say that about myself to any degree, but I’m so glad for that happy accident. It makes me proud how clear-headed they are and how well they filter out the noise that doesn’t really matter.
The oldest and her fella decided quite a while ago that they would end up married. Didn’t know when, they had other things to do first, but it was in the cards. They spent last year going to half a dozen weddings of their friends, which I suppose was handy research. lol After every one, she would tell me what was good and not good about the experience. Mostly she saw a lot of waste, a lot of stress, a lot of ridiculous expectation and drama, and she was happy to see the days end. Partly, I imagine, due to what she did inherit from me, which are some hard limits to her social battery.
Yesterday she tells me he’s getting his grandma’s ring for her. He asked her first to make sure she shared his love of the sentiment of that. She’s humbled by it. By the decades of love that it comes with. Her appreciation of sentiment also makes me proud. 😌 Then she goes on to say they’ll have a ceremony sometime this year with just family and close friends. No bridesmaids/groomsmen. No special colors. No dress code. She wants everyone comfy and happy. They’re hoping one of their friends will get ordained to perform the ceremony. Maybe in a park somewhere with a picnic afterward. Next year they’ll rent some cabins or something and have a weekend come and go get together as their “reception.” She liked the idea of not having everything in one huge overwhelming day. Since she does most of the planning for everything they do, he wants to do the planning for the wedding so all she has to do is show up. This might still fall into the realm of unreasonable expectations given I got him a lockbox for Christmas so he wouldn’t have to break into their house anymore because he forgot his key. 😂 But we’ll see. I’m just proud to have a kid who sees what everyone else is doing and doesn’t automatically think she needs to do the same. That’s a precious awesome thing in this world. 😌
The oldest and her fella decided quite a while ago that they would end up married. Didn’t know when, they had other things to do first, but it was in the cards. They spent last year going to half a dozen weddings of their friends, which I suppose was handy research. lol After every one, she would tell me what was good and not good about the experience. Mostly she saw a lot of waste, a lot of stress, a lot of ridiculous expectation and drama, and she was happy to see the days end. Partly, I imagine, due to what she did inherit from me, which are some hard limits to her social battery.
Yesterday she tells me he’s getting his grandma’s ring for her. He asked her first to make sure she shared his love of the sentiment of that. She’s humbled by it. By the decades of love that it comes with. Her appreciation of sentiment also makes me proud. 😌 Then she goes on to say they’ll have a ceremony sometime this year with just family and close friends. No bridesmaids/groomsmen. No special colors. No dress code. She wants everyone comfy and happy. They’re hoping one of their friends will get ordained to perform the ceremony. Maybe in a park somewhere with a picnic afterward. Next year they’ll rent some cabins or something and have a weekend come and go get together as their “reception.” She liked the idea of not having everything in one huge overwhelming day. Since she does most of the planning for everything they do, he wants to do the planning for the wedding so all she has to do is show up. This might still fall into the realm of unreasonable expectations given I got him a lockbox for Christmas so he wouldn’t have to break into their house anymore because he forgot his key. 😂 But we’ll see. I’m just proud to have a kid who sees what everyone else is doing and doesn’t automatically think she needs to do the same. That’s a precious awesome thing in this world. 😌
