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I "Do My Best to Keep My Daughter Safe, Healthy and Happy"

Today is my daughter Krysten's birthday. She is the middle out of my 3 girls.

Their father is a waste of space that has done nothing but hurt them. They have all kinds of anxiety and PTSD from the man.

I got so mad at my mother tonight. We always get a birthday cake for my girls especially if their birthday is on a different day than their party. While we were having her birthday cake guess who tried to call (on my mother's phone) I've always told them even when the court wouldn't take away his rights that none of them had to interact with him. He caused so much damage in all our lives. My mom was practically begging her to talk to him. Then it turned to guilt.

I had to not so politely remind my mother that they were not going to interact with him if they don't want to. Krysten told her at least 4 times she was not going to. The boy takes off hiding for a year so he wouldn't have to pay child support. The joke was on him because I tried to get his rights taken away for the problems he caused. I would have been happy to not get child support of it meant he had to stay away. He calls them on their birthday like it's supposed to make up for the other 364 days of the year. He's done this since we separated.
My mom is the first to bitch about how he doesn't care, but she's always tried to undermine them when they want nothing to do with him. I've always left it up to them. I won't speak to him. But I believe it should be up to them. Not my mom telling her, he only wants to tell you happy birthday. You're gonna make him feel bad. I can't say it in front of them, but he doesn't care, and he probably doesn't even have the ability to feel bad.

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BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

answer me something why is that takes a smart person to do something TRULY and DEEPLY stupid?

I ask this question because my elder sister is quiet proud of being a bit smarter than most people and I mean she has more education than a lot of people do she's privileged in that regard.

She also was the freak among us who liked school.

She got involved with a man who she fathered a kid by who had her take out EVERY single loan he possibly could, my mother BEGGED her not to marry him saw him for what he was VERY early on an she STILL did it and of course mom was right about him.

He doesn't even pay child support, he fled the country.

and my poor niece still loves her dad who clearly doesn't love her enough to actually provide for his daughter.

my sister is not dumb- she's a massive fool though. by the time they divorced she was deeply in debt and it was all his doing and now he won't even pay for his kid.

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CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots I only know my situation. Stupidity wasn't involved. I was told I wouldn't be able to have kids, and was on birth control every time. He was manipulative because he had nowhere to go. You can't always assume it's people being stupid. It's not always for us to judge other people for the things they do.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic I don't judge you I don't know you well enough but I do know my sister and what she did I mean she has no excuse she really ought to have known better.

there are people like that in this world, you have to look out for them.

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots is he the kind that is mentally or verbally abusive? My ex manipulated me with threats of running away with my kids. Nobody wanted him around and I was the only one with any kind of leverage to use to his advantage. Maybe your sister is like so many. They think he's gonna change or grow up. Some people just refuse to see the bad in people until it's too late.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic they fought a lot, honestly doesn't surprise me.

she doesn't realy reveal her true colors except to her family most people think she's basically decent they haven't lived with her, most people who have know what she is like, we kicked her out when she turned 18 because she was abusive towards me and all of us, she was told to either get a job or go to school, she got a job for all of two weeks hated it and then choose school and went as far from us as possible only to get involve with Shane who knew we paid for her education and saw her as a t rust fund baby who was likely rich and tried to suckle her for every dime he could extract.

the only thing i'm willing to give shane is if I had been her husband I would have wanted to leave the states and put over 1000 miles of distance between us. that's all.

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots there wasn't a day that went by that we didn't argue and fight. My family knew things were bad, but I wasn't about to let people know how bad things were. Especially when he would be in a bad mood and he started taking it out on them. I wasn't about to take any chances. He was not going to take my kids and run away where I wasn't there to protect them. My family were all the same. They couldn't figure out why I had to put up with him.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic honestly the only reason she's even in my thoughts right now in a judgey way is my mom was hospitalized recently and she came down from washington and basically suggested to the doctor mom might have found her way in there off illegal drugs and because of her fuckery mom is in a lot of pain and can't get pain medication.

neither her nor her ex husband were good people to be honest but at least jennifer raised her kid. it might be the one decent thing she ever did.

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots yeah, people who aren't around really have no right to come around and act like they know what's happening. I don't understand why people can't understand how bad it is living with pain.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic the opioid epidemic understandably has doctors very reluctant to prescribe opioids the problem is that people that are in real pain at this point can't get them because they're over reacting quiet severely....

I get it , a lot of people are dying, it's sad very much so but we're over reacting.

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots I tell people that all the time. They need a war on heroin. And if people took the meds as prescribed, I mean no doubling up when the Dr doesn't know, or taking them sooner than the 6 to 8 hours, the risk of addiction is much less.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic Yeah the thing that pisses me off about heroin junkies is because of their irresponsibility people who actually need opioids can't get them. If I were actually in pain I would use them as intended because I don't want to be a case study in why we shouldn't give people them in the first place.

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots that's how it always is. Punish the people following the rules for the ignorance of all the people who break them.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic that thought is very much so consistent with my moral values too, I believe essentially live yes and let live too but also leave space for other living creatures to thrive.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic you know you'd think that they would realize that kind of behavior actually encourages criminality.

It's like the DRM problem. paying customers get treated like criminals which just encourages everyone to be a criminal. because honestly us Pirates get the better product for stealing it.

I admittedly break the law in regards to copy right - but opioids? I get that. I wouldn't there.

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots I am a live and let live person. But like you say, no one should ever suffer because of the ignorance of others. Never. I live in constant pain myself. Believe me, I don't like needing medicine all the time. But I could be dead today. Pain is a reminder of that.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic I don't know if they're ignorant so much as selfish, I don't know if theye've seen the damage their behavior has done.

but honestly I feel like very much so that if the lesson society was trying to impar is don't be a criminal instead what they've done iss send the signal that it feels good to be a gangster.

when you punish the people who follow the rules for the ones who break them you encourage EVERYONE To break the rules.

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CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots the criminals are the ones who always know where to find it illegally lol but a person going to a doctor who legally can prescribe them and track the usage? It's a stupid system.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic I have NO contacts And if I Wanted black tar heroin I could order it through the mail.

No joke. I have "contacts" but of course nobody I know in the real world.

when y ou've been pirating shit since the early 90s though the Pirate community is aware of who you are and you're in good especially if you've contributed. and God have I.

and yeah a seven nation army realy couldn't stop me from breaking copy right law.

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots lol I will tell you this. My doctor put me on fentanyl for 2 months. It made me so sick, I had to make him take me off of it. I don't see how anybody would willingly try to make themselves feel that bad. Same with embeda. There's no way.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic the thing about me is i'm a strong willed person who doesn't crack just because I have access to something.

In regards to sex, since so much of this post is about having child be the wrong man for instance when I was 16 I could have had.

and it's not like I did not on any level want it, I'm just stubborn and knew I was not ready as well as realizing that I wanted very much so to be in love with my first.

and it's kind of the same in regards to drugs, I played with MDMA and that was it for me. I tried DMT once? hated it.

but yeah if i wanted that shit I could easily order it.

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots I'm not about to take any chances with any kind of illegal drugs. I never have. I've never been one to be interested in any of that stuff.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic really if I have one weakness it's not drugs it's women...

The only force capable of making me lose any sense of self control...

not any woman, not every woman, but certainly some of you....

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots lol I've been told I'm infuriating more than I've been told anything else 🤔

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic my problem with you guys is I have goals and things I want to get done and not that any of you are in the way but when I get hurt It can be very dispiriting an what I mean is I've never been the type that can get anything done when i'm mourning.

So basically periods after breakups for instance are some of my least productive times.

If a girl really wanted to sabotage me just get me to fall in love with her and then break my heart.... that's all she'd have to do.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@CallmeHopelessNotRomantic of course I make it sound like it's easy to get me to fall in love with much of anyone and it's not.

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots myself? I hang on way too long. (Ex husband not included) when I really care I'm too loyal. So I hang on until I hate them. The PTSD has a lot to do with that. But it's just easier to avoid those issues altogether.

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