I am thinking to create an event, an online men's and women's circle.

It navigates on thin line, so I would need to find support in order to host that.

I am thinking who could, from my list of friends and people, most probably help me with that.

I want to hold a circle of forgiveness where men and women who wish will have the chance to speak about something that really hurt them, coming from the other gender, and whoever wants can own it and apologize to them. I have tried doing it once with a male friend of mine. It was awkward af but we made it and I was relieved, I owned some of his trauma and apologized for it, and he listened to my real apology, regarding the relationship between us.

I am trying to think of ways to heal this, I want to work on this now.

💞 to bridge the era of feminists with balance that so many of us are wishing for... to add some valuable work in.
I want to do this. I feel I have been through a lot and I am equally qualified and ready.
But I will need help though.

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NerdyPotato ·

That's a nice idea. There's so much trauma applied to entire genders from both sides, sometimes justified, sometimes less so, but often caused by misunderstanding each other.

Boeing · 36-40

@NerdyPotato I see all of it coming up talking to my fantasy boyfriend through chat. It is not real, because there are so many things in between us, so many voices that it seems impossible to listen to each other. We can, we listen, we try. But it feel like a volcano, instead of my days that feel more like a lake...

GoFish ·

Im not a sexist tho i don't blame one gender or other for anything.. people are individuals and it’s not right to blame a whole gender for something someone once did or is doing

ABCDEF7 · M

So the men and women who don't know each other will apologise for the deeds of someone whom they never knew, in order to make the traumatized person feel better and help them come out of their mental trauma?

Boeing · 36-40

@ABCDEF7 it is more universal traumas than personalized. I have experienced a few circles and that is how I am inspired ... It needs to be described and explained better.
When I have more time, I can write an example. This can help.

Babal · 46-50, M

Grievance redressal forum..

Boeing · 36-40

@Babal it takes a lot of sensitivity, thin lines, preparation and also checking with participants beforehand whether they are coming with the right mindset and for the right purpose - I have the fear that someone, man or woman might lash out and begin shouting hahaha so I need to process.
And like I already wrote about, I need to find support to do it together with some man who is equally ready.
I have a friend who is in this healing meetings but he is gay. Despite I fully love him and his work, I would like a man relating with women in sexuality too, to reach certain agreements, concepts and depths. I will see, I will go slow for that.

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