i rarely reach climax with a partner but when i do it usually doesnt take that long. for me, its not about orgasming so much as just the exquisite sensations and closeness. i mean, I at least dont need to climax to feel satisfied from sex in any case. just thought id say that. i think theres probably a lot of factors besides "14 minutes" such as how primed you are or how excited or how much you love the person you are with.