the problem with advice or help on SW

people come here seeking help for their struggles and problems. problem is, in sw everyone has issues. therefore you won't get the help you need you will just find people with problems.
people who don't have problems aren't on SW because they don't need it.

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SooperSarah

I prefer my help/advice come from someone that can relate.
Imagine being overweight and having a skinny doctor that knows nothing of your struggles tell you to lose weight.

dpoet · 36-40, M

@SooperSarah I'm sorry what. but you want an overweight doctor to tell you what to do with your weight??!?!?!? WTF. LOL that makes zero sense whatsoever. it's the opposite of what you need.
you need someone that is slim and learn from it. specially if the person was obese in the past. if you are going to an overweight doctor you aren't going to learn or achieve anything because the doctor suffer from the exact same problems as you and doesn't even know how to solve them otherwise he wouldn't be overweight

SooperSarah

@dpoet Odds are that slim person has no idea what struggling with weight loss is like. Sure there are people out there that have lost a lot of weight. And a few might be in the medical field. If you happen to find one, congratulations!

On that same note, I would much rather talk to a therapist that has experienced what I'm going through than one that read about it in a book back in school.

All I'm saying is that life experience is extremely helpful when offering or recieving help from someone.

I can only speak for myself but I will struggle to take anyone who has never been in my shoes seriously. I need help with the journey. I don't need to have a model of the results tell me to fix myself.

dpoet · 36-40, M

@SooperSarah would you want to learn driving from someone who doesn't know how to drive?

SooperSarah

@dpoet I would want to learn to drive from someone that appreciates everything that comes with learning to drive and being a new driver. That's the differnce between a good driving instructor and someone that just knows how to drive.