Life is good… but…

I’m at a place in my life, where I wouldn’t have to be anonymous on SW anymore. My wife and I have an understanding; I don’t get involved in what she does on her phone. She doesn’t get involved on mine. We use each other’s phones at times.

If there’s anything questionable, we usually give each jabs about it. I’ll tell her “Tell him I ain’t slapped a man in forever. I’d love for him to break my streak” or she’ll say “Is that what you’re into these days?”. And we get chuckles out of it, because we know we’re in this and not going anywhere. We both give 110% to each other and that’s a hard thing to compete with as an outsider.

The problem is friends on here 👀 There is a lot of history from here and EP that I don’t think I can let out of the bag.

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PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F

Haha. Sounds like conversations the husband and I have had in the past concerning such things. Nowadays we simply don’t even pry. There’ll be the random exhausted sigh and he’ll ask, “…dudes being dudes?” To which I’ll say, “Yep. Dudes be duding.”

But I learned a long time ago with certain things it’s just better not to know, which is why I stopped venturing down any kind of rabbit holes I know would only cause me grief. Or him grief. And honestly, some things don’t need to be shared. They really don’t because of that reason. I’m too tired for all that mess and life is way too short to be concerned with such things.

So I keep sacred what I feel needs to be kept close to my heart, and I’ve accepted and respected the fact that he will do the same. It’s how we can still function as a team until the time comes when we no longer feel like one.

FeelingItAll · 41-45, M

@PerfectionOfTheHeart that is an excellent way to put it; we’re a team. Right now, both of us are running full tilt at a goal, and neither of us have time to do much more than idle dabbling every now and then.

Which has proven useful with my time back on SW. With my intermittent touch and go, anyone who has shown any interest in getting to know me, doesn’t have the patience to wait for my next visit. That saves a whole other world of strife.

exchrist · 36-40

That’s a great relationship dynamic success is higher in trusting one another

FeelingItAll · 41-45, M

@exchrist this relationship has turned out to be a grand slam my mind. We moved in together, not 100% convinced we would be staying together. Over the course of five years, we’ve created a place we want to be in every single day. We’re not even huge fans of our jobs anymore. Our kids like being at home. So we decided to get married and it has become one awesome beautiful ride.

Zonuss · 46-50, M

It's not worth it
Did not cheat on your lady.

FeelingItAll · 41-45, M

@Zonuss I haven’t. That’s what I mean. I could easily let her into my SW world, but the things I did before she and I got together? Those aren’t things I’d want to resurface

YoMomma ·

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