Friendships on SW

Have you ever have someone beg to be your friend here? Would you think it odd? would you give that person a chance?
Maybe you have given it a chance, but it didnt gel for you, so it wasnt a friendship you tried very hard to build? What if that person still kept asking you to be their friend?

A lot of questions...but im interested in your views.

Ive always thought friendships just happen...ya dont plan them. Yes, it can be work sustaining one, but theres got to be something to start with....yeah???

This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »

SomeMichGuy · M

I have had amazing interactions out of the blue, others that built.

But this isn't as immediate as going to the same corner diner all the time, and people fall away, pass away, go away, etc.

SomeMichGuy · M

I have also had a lot of broken / hurting people with whom I have talked.

Some got a bit of good from it.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@SomeMichGuy what if soneone began messaging you and you were pleasant back....but they didnt really have anything to say? The message would be ' hi, ask me anything!"
If i get messages out of the blue and they dont say why...what intetested them about be, i ask. Surely if someone wants to talk to me, they mudt gave found something interesting about me? Theres got to be a starting point?

SomeMichGuy · M

@RubySoo Hmmmm I usually initiate, and have read their profile and fora list.

So I usually have a point, but that does not always "gel".

I have been everything from pestered to ignored.

Since we don't deal face-to-face, one has to not invest too much (do as I say, not as I do!)...but I have had a set of people I have tried to encourage, help, etc. More of those have worked out than others, but I would say that I have a set of friends, mostly male, who share similar views and a lot of respect, and I look forward to seeing them.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@SomeMichGuy yeah..likewise. if i message someone first....sonething sparked my interest and id say that in a message. As you say, it doesnt always led to a friendship, but can still be a pleasent interaction.