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Giving up television about 35 years ago, giving up internet via gadgets soon?

I remember in my early to mid teens, when all those changes of puberty were taking place, carefully taking stock of where I was and what I was doing, checking myself against my values. In those days I think we had four channels on television, the fourth recently launched. However, I remember how easily and quickly if I started watching television, I had lost hours of time doing nothing constructive other than distracting myself. Now, resting is necessary and television was useful for that but I made a conscious decision to cut down massively. Before long I'd cut down to about half to one hour per week. This was very useful because I was then using my time far more constructively.

In my late teens, when I started university and using the internet (being a computer scientist) I noticed similarly how being online could very quickly start gobbling up my time. That was even before the world-wide-web, so it was mostly text based, newsgroups, emails and the like. So... I made sure to only be online when necessary and when the world-wide-web started, similarly, I literally would open a browser for a specific need I had, then close it immediately. I have always loved libraries and felt like the www was a huge library I could just become lost in forever!

By my early twenties, though, other life shocks such as love and loss had finally caught up with me and left me in some confusion due to my mental health. In those days it was immediately referred to as mental illness, therefore very taboo, even more so than today when there is a lot more understanding, finally. What this did was it left me susceptible (courtesy of my inner child, is a strong way of looking at it, in my opinion) to distraction and indulgence which I had largely remained resistant to in my younger years.

Well, it takes a lot of introspection, self honesty, and straight-up hard work to (tame that inner child and) break free from habits that in many ways are a waste of time. Internet and things like SW on gadgets can and do soothe me and especially so at my times of greatest stress. But, despite it all, to an extent it isn't real. I am planning an exit, gradually and compassionately.

This is not an "I'm leaving SW post," I'm not. But during healthier times, of which I hope there will be more soon, I plan to be in the real world more and on gadgets and SW/websites less 😊
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ArishMell · 70-79, M
My parents did not have a television until I was in my late teens or early twenties, and over the years I continued to live with them I watched it less and less.

There were programmes I would watch regularly, and a few others now and then for particular interest or just relaxation, but I was never one of those whose viewing habits are summed up as random, lazy and and listless.

Once I found my own home more than thirty years ago I think, I did not buy a TV and have lived without one since. This does surprise people, including the TV Licensing Authority who gained a rather unfortunate reputation some years ago for the intimidating nature of the reminder letters it used at the time.

Even friends who know I have no television sometimes forget and ask, "Did you watch...?" Then come over all embarrassed when they remember or I remind them.

At least two of my friends have no TV either.

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SW and much less Answermug are the only general social-media sites I use, and I am reducing the time I spend on SW.

I used to contribute to a very different site, Wikipedia's Answers, but stopped when it suspended operations for a while then re-started but as a paid-for service.

I do use a couple of specialist fora dedicated to my hobbies, but I have never and will never use Facebook, X and their ilk.

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Regarding gadgets, the less the better. My portable 'phone is a basic one, with voice telephony its primary purpose. I have no "Bluetooth" stuff, no wireless devices apart from the central-heating thermostat and front door bell; and refuse out of hand to own eavesdropping instruments like Siri and Alexa.

Nor has my broadband service provider BT succeeded in selling me any of its Hive or Halo services. The former is for remotely controlling appliances and heating systems, I think. Halo is a costly, extra high-power broadband service for those who use their computers as glorified televisions and games machines.

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In summary I refuse fashion and have no time for that lazy "Now we all..." nonsense. I ask myself,

"Do I need this?
Will it genuinely help me?
Can I afford it?
What are its advantages and disadvantages?
What is its real purpose and for whose benefit?"