Sorry I don’t know how to treat men on SW especially

the ones that like me. I mean no harm to them. As long as they respect me I will be kind to them and care. Still I don’t know how to treat the ones that try to get close. I just do not wish for them to think I am not a good person because that is not true. I am a good person with a heart. I just cannot get very close because that is my life.

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th3r0n · 41-45, M

Those that cannot get close are often very damaged

BritishFailedAesthetic · M

@th3r0n Close to people who are important to them..... why do they need to get close to some random guy online?

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@BritishFailedAesthetic this

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@BritishFailedAesthetic don't need to, but can't is Always for a reason

BritishFailedAesthetic · M

@th3r0n Nope.

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@BritishFailedAesthetic decision not to is different from can't

The truth is, if someone has trouble connecting with others they have been hurt

It's pretty well universal

I have studied a lot of psychology, I have been there for a good number of people, this is just truth

BritishFailedAesthetic · M

@th3r0n Right, but being anxious about others socially is abit different to not responding to the guy's dick pic, know what I mean?

*Odin's Men Style Chuckle*

BritishFailedAesthetic · M

@th3r0n Also if you were a psychology expert you'd realise- these are strangers online! 🙄

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@BritishFailedAesthetic I don't know if you realize this, someone that has never been hurt at all, or has healed completely, connects easy even with strangers

That doesn't mean they want to or choose to, some people are introverted like you say by nature, they can connect they just don't like to connect with just anybody and they're not comfortable in large groups unless those groups are all the people they knows somehow and are comfortable with

Introverts sometimes even connect very well online, trust me when I tell you that the inability to connect when you want to comes from damage

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@BritishFailedAesthetic in regards to the dick pic type and anything they say, I don't think that's what she was talking about but it is funny that you say that

Unless she did not communicate very clearly, the issue is an ability, I don't think desire to connect with that type of individual is a common thing

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@BritishFailedAesthetic tempering my statement without contradicting it, just the number of dick pics women get on this site could technically cause some level of psychological damage, as well as mistreatment from guys before in any manner

Doesn't have to be one awful event

BritishFailedAesthetic · M

@th3r0n

never been hurt at all, or has healed completely, connects easy even with strangers

I do realise, just yesterday I was out at a family meal and also chatting with strangers on a different table- it's me Northern heritage- bothering people and not letting them enjoy their meal 😂

But on these forums I have no desire to add new people as this is not really RL- mingling and networking are for outside here.

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@BritishFailedAesthetic indeed, desire differs, but we spoke of ability