I’ve always questioned this...

When an immediate family member dies you not only are responsible for planning the funeral and possibly managing the estate, but also feeding the guests that attend the funeral and covering up your emotions while greeting them at the viewing/service. It just seems like a lot of pressure for one person who probably hasn’t even taken a moment to grieve themselves because they’re so busy making sure everyone else is okay. If you choose not to be social bc you are grieving, then this is frowned upon bc you’re not entertaining the guests. Why all this pressure on the person(s) affected the most?