SpicyNSweet deleted her profile.

@ShaythePanTransMan How could you block SweetNSpicy? She's cool. She's got a lil attitude at times but she's cool.

@quitwhendone Said something transphobic to me. Just one of [b]many[/b] I had to block when I joined. Nowadays, I barely block anyone because I’ve cleaned the streets enough. Now most everyone I see are nice people.

@ShaythePanTransMan Oh, I see. Yeah, a lot of people just aren't used to trans people and don't know how to react to them or think about them.

@quitwhendone Yeah. Or just mean and feel like attacking me or making very rude jokes.

@ShaythePanTransMan Well, I have a lot of questions about trans people. There is much about them I don't understand. But I try not to ever come across as rude. I'm sensitive to other people's feelings.

@quitwhendone The thing is...questions are good. It’s kind of important for people to try to understand politely the people they don’t know. If someone’s intentions are good and someone knows that, it rarely comes across as rude, just misguided.

@ShaythePanTransMan Yeah, usually. But I know from my personal experiences, I ask questions and people get mad at me. And I am not talking about with trans people...just anything. Actually, now that I think about it, I was chatting with a trans person and I used the word "pre-op" and she (or he) got annoyed with me and told me "That term isn't used anymore. People don't get their penis cut off anymore"

@quitwhendone Maybe they’re sensitive or something. They just need to know the other person is just asking out of good will.... Okay, I understand what she means then, but plenty of trans women still seem interested in gender confirmation surgery.... The thing I’ve really noticed is that what people know about the trans community tends to be knowledge and thought patterns of, like...the OLD trans community. The modern trans community is radically different. We’re getting/have mostly gotten past gatekeeping and the gender binary to accept gender diverse and non-binary people. More and more states in the US, such as mine and where I was born, are no longer requiring surgery to change legal documents. People are becoming more accepting of trans people that have not had surgery. It’s true that biological sex is just not as important as psychological gender anymore, and many trans people like myself don’t feel the need to “correct their body” like the old trans community (to borrow a term from the old trans community). That’s why we created the term gender euphoria, to say fuck you to our biological sexes!

That’s also why we’re the trans community now, not the transgender community. Trans is an umbrella term for all non-cis gender identities. Transgender specifically refers to only female to male or male to female.

@ShaythePanTransMan OK. But I didn't get the "OLD trans community to the modern trans community" memo. I didn't know any of all that until I started chatting with you. SW is educational. One day I want to ask you about how trans people engage in sex but not tonight.

@quitwhendone Yeah, that’s the problem with cis people oftentimes. They either haven’t cared or attempted to see how the modern trans community is, and that’s how a lot of otherwise well-meaning cis people come across as rude.
You can if you want sometime. It’s not really that mindblowing though.

@ShaythePanTransMan I didn't even know there was a "modern trans community." I just don't come across these people in the course of my normal day, that I know of. And if I did, I wouldn't be asking them deep, probing trans questions. So I would never know unless I saw some report on the news or an article in the newspaper. But, thanks to you, now I know.

@quitwhendone Yep, there is. Hm, if you’d like to know, you could start getting involved in trans/LGBTQ+ ally projects or get togethers around your area. No one is going to kick you out for not being LGBTQ+ (unless it specifically is closed to allies for some reason, which would be wrong). I’m glad you know now!

@ShaythePanTransMan Thanks.