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karinaal · 70-79, F
It is very obvious that physically woman and man are different designs but meant to perfectly supplement each other in their respective roles. Not even the most hardened feminists can deny this so why is it so hard to realise that also mentally and emotionally woman and man are programmed totally differently but so that they are compatible and perfectly supplement each other.
The big problem with equality is that it in the practical world has nothing to do with being equals but with women adjusting to men's ways and doing what men are meant to do and should be doing. Women's Lib certainly liberated a lot of people but mostly it liberated men from meeting the responsibilities and carrying the burdens that come with their natural roles as leaders and heads of their families.
The man's natural role that he is programmed for is to be the responsible and caring head of his household and provider and protector for his wife and children.
And the woman's natural role is to take good care of home and children and be a good, dutiful and supportive companion for her husband.
The big problem with equality is that it in the practical world has nothing to do with being equals but with women adjusting to men's ways and doing what men are meant to do and should be doing. Women's Lib certainly liberated a lot of people but mostly it liberated men from meeting the responsibilities and carrying the burdens that come with their natural roles as leaders and heads of their families.
The man's natural role that he is programmed for is to be the responsible and caring head of his household and provider and protector for his wife and children.
And the woman's natural role is to take good care of home and children and be a good, dutiful and supportive companion for her husband.
SW-User
People are not computers, they're not programmed. They're not identical machines from an assembly line. That analogy is faulty. There's a lot of natural variation and there are good reasons for it. My husband is not the head of the household, and neither am I. We are a team and we have enough money between us that we can pay someone else to do the drudge work.
My sisters wear the pants in their marriages; I'm more egalitarian.
My sisters wear the pants in their marriages; I'm more egalitarian.
karinaal · 70-79, F
You are right; people are not computers and in a way we are all unique but this does not change that we by our creator or nature or whatever you prefer to call it are in a way genetically programmed.
And though there is a lot of natural variation there is also a much more natural similarity in the genetic code for each sex.
That we in the basically West-European cultures today have living conditions that are very far from the natural life - and living conditions we are genetically coded and prepared for - is true but this does not change that we still basically are prepared, coded or programmed – call it what you like – for a more natural life, a natural life where the woman is occupied and partly immobilised because of pregnancies and the human offspring's need for several years of maternal care. This means that she needs a man to provide for and protect her and the children.
This is what we as humans are programmed for and what defines respectively the man's and the woman's natural role.
I would never dream of saying that women cannot just as well as men be dominant and have great potential for being leaders. There are lots of examples of this but I bet that even the most incarnated feminist deep in her heart wants and expects her partner to be strong and dominant and to take charge and be an authority when needed.
Equality has become a dogma and a watch-word that few dare to doubt or even reflect on and I know several couples who because it now is the political correct and commonly socially accepted claim to be equals but where it is very easy for an outsider to see who is more equal than the other.
In general it also is wise to ask either the little kid or the dog who is the dominant in the house; they instinctively know the hierarchy and they have not learned to corrupt the truth so it becomes politically correct.
And though there is a lot of natural variation there is also a much more natural similarity in the genetic code for each sex.
That we in the basically West-European cultures today have living conditions that are very far from the natural life - and living conditions we are genetically coded and prepared for - is true but this does not change that we still basically are prepared, coded or programmed – call it what you like – for a more natural life, a natural life where the woman is occupied and partly immobilised because of pregnancies and the human offspring's need for several years of maternal care. This means that she needs a man to provide for and protect her and the children.
This is what we as humans are programmed for and what defines respectively the man's and the woman's natural role.
I would never dream of saying that women cannot just as well as men be dominant and have great potential for being leaders. There are lots of examples of this but I bet that even the most incarnated feminist deep in her heart wants and expects her partner to be strong and dominant and to take charge and be an authority when needed.
Equality has become a dogma and a watch-word that few dare to doubt or even reflect on and I know several couples who because it now is the political correct and commonly socially accepted claim to be equals but where it is very easy for an outsider to see who is more equal than the other.
In general it also is wise to ask either the little kid or the dog who is the dominant in the house; they instinctively know the hierarchy and they have not learned to corrupt the truth so it becomes politically correct.
SW-User
Humans are not programmed! If it's one thing humans are supremely good at, it's adaptability. The fact that we went from stone axes to interplanetary robotic spacecraft within the space of ten thousand years demonstrates this vividly.
What's you biology background, btw? Are you a scientist?
I'm largely apolitical, and don't give myself labels if I can avoid it, so I don't care about "political correctness" or any other axe-grinding about feminists. Ultimately this is about my personal freedom. Do you want life in the Paleolithic? I sure don't, it sounds wretched. I bet women were treated like shit too.
You know why I'm independent? Because I'm a control freak and if you're dependent on someone, they take advantage of it. My parents exploited my dependence on them, and I worked like an animal to make sure I'm never in that situation again. There are very few people who can do my work, and even fewer who can do it better than me, and I'm proud of that. The ability to push out babies is much more common by comparison. I chose long time ago not to have children, and made it permanent so there could be no accidents, and I am thankful to live in this time where I have that option.
I don't expect my husband to be strong and dominant and take charge, don't presume to know what's going on in my head. We work as a team, for real. I don't let people dominate me. Equality or nothing.
What's you biology background, btw? Are you a scientist?
I'm largely apolitical, and don't give myself labels if I can avoid it, so I don't care about "political correctness" or any other axe-grinding about feminists. Ultimately this is about my personal freedom. Do you want life in the Paleolithic? I sure don't, it sounds wretched. I bet women were treated like shit too.
You know why I'm independent? Because I'm a control freak and if you're dependent on someone, they take advantage of it. My parents exploited my dependence on them, and I worked like an animal to make sure I'm never in that situation again. There are very few people who can do my work, and even fewer who can do it better than me, and I'm proud of that. The ability to push out babies is much more common by comparison. I chose long time ago not to have children, and made it permanent so there could be no accidents, and I am thankful to live in this time where I have that option.
I don't expect my husband to be strong and dominant and take charge, don't presume to know what's going on in my head. We work as a team, for real. I don't let people dominate me. Equality or nothing.
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