I Am a Feminist

One thing that's often being heard when we have people over at home is "You're lucky you have girls to help you" directed at my mother by women who don't have girls of their own, usually followed by "You know how boys are" and things of that sort. It's needless to say that my mom is the one bringing things from the kitchen and serving and my dad sits there along with the guests and my sister and I are the ones to serve along with her. Sometimes women guests will help along. You'll also hear things like "Oh there are so many women here to do it all!". I once couldn't keep myself and said "I never realized we lift plates with our fallopian tubes".
It's so annoying to actually like these people but then they have this kind of attitude that can ruin it and I don't know how to feel about them all. One of the many reasons I cannot stand family gatherings 😂

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BlueVeins · 22-25

Yeah, I fucking hate people who are like that. I'm only just now getting into cooking, and I can't imagine why so many men can... even concieve of it being an inherently female activity. Like even from a matchoistic perspective, slashing the shit out of a pot o' potatoes and using dousing them in flames is kinda badass compared to other everyday human activities. I really think that in order to fall into the whole, "Cooking is for women" trap, you just have to be a nitwit who can't think for yourself.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@BlueVeins I know right! But prejudices will never make sense in general...

BlueVeins · 22-25

@HannibalAteMeOut Yeah, but at least most are based on truth. At least it's true that black people are disproportionately impoverished and uneducated, and that East Asian people (in certain countries) are disprortionately good at math, and that white people are disproportionately ungrateful towards their own priviledge, and so on and so forth. The cooking one has always struck me as having come out of nowhere.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@BlueVeins hahaha that's a good point, people move in mysterious ways. And it's even weirder that this one is almost universal.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@BlueVeins I really should learn to cook for myself at least to be honest. I don't give a fuck that society says cooking is women's work. Fuck that- Women are largely too busy to cook for my ass. I'm the only one who will look after me.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

@BlueVeins ESPECIALLY because the word 'picky" doesn't begin to go far enough to describe my problems. I am full blown ARFID which is that taken to extremes more intense than you can possibly imagine due to an overactive sense of flavor and scent that can trigger vommiting if something is too awful. So I tend to eat at the same 3 places over and over and over and rely on a relatively limited number of goods at home since I'm terrified of food I have not already tried due to the trauma of vomiting in front of my peers when I was very young... So when somebody does take care of me attention to detail is paramount everything has to be done with exacting precision I'll pick up on even slight imperfections because my taste buds are super tasters and I envy those of you who do not share my problem.

it would make sense to learn my own recipes to take care of myself on my own especially since If I do get the courage to risk vomiting at least if it's my own food I can eat it in private and if I do gag choke and throw that shit up nobody else has to know or witness it.

I'd prefer to do my vomiting in private.

if women are largely too busy to take care of my ass it goes double for me because whatever they're doing it's VERY Hard to work ME into those plans in regards to food because I like what I like and ANY Deviation will not be tolerated.

with all the female friends I have considering the majority of my friends share two X chromosones I feel like I can talk about some things they mostly have in common and one thing most of my Female friends have in common is they STAY BUSY. ALWAYS. They're either doing something or SLEEPING .

So especially since I'm older now I'm basically expected to look after myself to a much greater extent it's very easy for me to go over looked.

Especially because mom at this point is either indisposed due to digestion problems or in ay too much pain due to digesting issues quiet frequently so I often cannot go out to eat since I don't have my license and NOBODY else is willing to put up with going as far from the house as where I like to eat is.

since I am not a child anymore nobody takes pity on me but for mom when I am hungry.