why do people believe in soulmates? do you believe in soulmates?
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Faust76 · 46-50, M
People have a need to believe that there is a reason for everything, and that everything leads to the, you know, Happily Ever After of the fairytales. Of course, this leads to the serial soulmate syndrome, where whoever they're with at any given time tends to be their designated soulmate, no matter that it isn't their first nor likely last soulmate.
Then when it doesn't work out, it gives way to quotes about how your soulmate is supposed to challenge and teach you something; congrats, you've just re-invented the concept of boyfriend/girlfriend. Of course, there are some romantic inclinations, and yes the player types I've seen tend to be fluent in it, like "Okay, maybe we're not perfect for each other, but we're SOULMATES, how can you escape that?"
I'm not certain how this applies in cases where people insist their soulmate is someone else than who they're currently involved. Seems really screwed up. I've begun coming to an understanding that it's their, possibly unconscious, way of warning "By the way, you're just disposable filler"; of course, it doesn't work too well, someone rational seeing that is liable to think "Oh how strong is their love, one day I'll earn it instead".
But do I believe? Well, I believe that many people make their relationship decisions on "soulmateness". And if their soulmate makes them happy, that's great, but if their soulmate intentionally and knowingly makes them suffer, then they've got a problem. (And to be fair, most of the time I hear of soulmates in the context of suffering).
Then when it doesn't work out, it gives way to quotes about how your soulmate is supposed to challenge and teach you something; congrats, you've just re-invented the concept of boyfriend/girlfriend. Of course, there are some romantic inclinations, and yes the player types I've seen tend to be fluent in it, like "Okay, maybe we're not perfect for each other, but we're SOULMATES, how can you escape that?"
I'm not certain how this applies in cases where people insist their soulmate is someone else than who they're currently involved. Seems really screwed up. I've begun coming to an understanding that it's their, possibly unconscious, way of warning "By the way, you're just disposable filler"; of course, it doesn't work too well, someone rational seeing that is liable to think "Oh how strong is their love, one day I'll earn it instead".
But do I believe? Well, I believe that many people make their relationship decisions on "soulmateness". And if their soulmate makes them happy, that's great, but if their soulmate intentionally and knowingly makes them suffer, then they've got a problem. (And to be fair, most of the time I hear of soulmates in the context of suffering).
