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swirlie · 31-35
Well if his/her marriage sucked, are they losers to make a reasonable life for themselves outside their marriage?
swirlie · 31-35
@LindaM:
Does walking out on a marriage that sucks, make that person a "loser" in your view?
Does walking out on a marriage that sucks, make that person a "loser" in your view?
@swirlie: or they can just leave like a responsible adult would do
@swirlie: she said people who cheat are losers not people who leave a marriage...
LindaM · 61-69, F
@swirlie: here is the thing...if you are not happy in your marriage is it fair to your wife to cheat on her? or do you act like a "real" man and do the right thing for yourself and for your wife and leave and let her make a life for herself that does not include a cheating husband..think about it..
swirlie · 31-35
@LindaM:
OK, that's fine LindaM, I understand your rationale which I don't disagree with. But I was a little confused by the tone of your original post whereby you said, "Most people who cheat are losers, especially married men".
How is it that married men are 'special' in this circumstance when you say "especially", which infers that a male's actions are worse in some way, than the actions of a married woman doing the same thing to him and the family?
Why are you segregating a married man's actions from the same actions of a married woman, is what I'm getting at here? And I guess to further clarify my lack of understanding of your post, why did you use the word "especially", is my underlying question here?
OK, that's fine LindaM, I understand your rationale which I don't disagree with. But I was a little confused by the tone of your original post whereby you said, "Most people who cheat are losers, especially married men".
How is it that married men are 'special' in this circumstance when you say "especially", which infers that a male's actions are worse in some way, than the actions of a married woman doing the same thing to him and the family?
Why are you segregating a married man's actions from the same actions of a married woman, is what I'm getting at here? And I guess to further clarify my lack of understanding of your post, why did you use the word "especially", is my underlying question here?
LindaM · 61-69, F
@swirlie: i had the experience and it wasnt pretty and when i saw the question i automatically drew my response from what i knew in my own situation but the fact is , anyone who cheats is hurting others around and if they are not happy, then leave..
swirlie · 31-35
@LindaM:
OK, I see where you are coming from now. In your original comment, you were infusing some personal experience as a point of reference. What it appeared to me at first reading however, was that you were targeting men specifically. In truth, you were targeting your own relationship with your partner.
There are a lot of men on this site who would take immediate offense to what you had written and rightly so. Just as women will take immediate offense to some guy who starts putting women down on this website, no different than women (including myself) who rallied for a march against Trump's abusive behavior as he victimized women. I'm all over those guys like a pail of water at a wet T-shirt contest, because I have zero tolerance for that crap.
Thanks for clarifying your post to me and thank you as well for touching on your own personal experiences which I'm sure, most of us can empathize with on a very personal level as well.
OK, I see where you are coming from now. In your original comment, you were infusing some personal experience as a point of reference. What it appeared to me at first reading however, was that you were targeting men specifically. In truth, you were targeting your own relationship with your partner.
There are a lot of men on this site who would take immediate offense to what you had written and rightly so. Just as women will take immediate offense to some guy who starts putting women down on this website, no different than women (including myself) who rallied for a march against Trump's abusive behavior as he victimized women. I'm all over those guys like a pail of water at a wet T-shirt contest, because I have zero tolerance for that crap.
Thanks for clarifying your post to me and thank you as well for touching on your own personal experiences which I'm sure, most of us can empathize with on a very personal level as well.
LindaM · 61-69, F
hello thank you, i appreciate your response...swirlie: