Is it okay to search your child's room, to make sure they aren't doing anything you don't want them to do?

[c=#BF0080]Ehhh my daughter was fine and it didn't affect our relationship.. even when she moved out. She had nothing to hide so she didn't care.[/c]

Assuming children have rights to privacy that supercede a parent's authority is how you raise stoners and antisocial children .

@pinkrainbowkisses: i think its important that a kid has a space they can call their own that they know once they're not doing anything against their parents rules they're fine to do as they please without fear of being assumed to be up to no good

@Soccerstar: [c=#BF0080]Yeah, well not how it works in my house. Always have to be one step ahead of the game. They know it.. and they know why I do it. [/c]

@pinkrainbowkisses: but you're just assuming that your child is up to no good 24/7 why not just search when you think something is up and ask first. That's what my mum did

@Soccerstar: [c=#BF0080]I'm not assuming anything.. I'm trying to prevent anything from happening or taken care of early on if it needs to be. Which happened just a few times but the problem was taken care of and it was over with.. had I not caught it early it could have turned into something huge. I worry about the kids whose parents don't check on them.. those are the kids that usually have issues. I do it because I care.. not because I'm trying to be controlling or anything like that. Not to toot my own horn but my kids are pretty good kids.. and i like to think thats a result of good parenting.[/c]

@pinkrainbowkisses: my mother raised my sister and I almost single handedly without searching our rooms and we've turned out fine. I know it's horses for courses and It may be different in the US but here the ones that had their rooms searched were the ones that made hiding spaces and ended up on a bad path. The ones that felt their parents trusted them ended up fine. If that's you're style and your kids liked it fine but for me I would have seriously resented my mum had she gone behind my back and searched my room

@Soccerstar: [c=#BF0080]Everyone's different.. and my kids and I are close. My 20 year old is more like a sister because we're that close.. and she's the one that I had to be the hardest on, so far. I guess the point I was trying to make in all this was not every kid resents their parents for this. To each their own though.[/c]

I guess it depends on how the parents approach doing it too

@Soccerstar: [c=#BF0080]Yes, I do think that has a lot to do with it.. and reassuring them that I wasn't doing this because I didn't trust them. I think that's what makes the difference.[/c]