Another shirt in the bin...

@ScarletWitch I raised my knee and he jumped into it.
That's the difference.
I'm not out here trying to abuse him.
And he is defiant.
He will do as told to get thd treat then resort back to doing what he wants.

@OogieBoogie Boston terrier... They're known for their stubborness (terrier) and he's very excitable.
He has come from a very controlled human limited environment.
Consequently because we play he thinks I'm his doggie friend.
As he tries to play like he does with the dogs.
I've done all the: eat after I have, not letting him through doors before me, having him walk at my side as he pulls a lot on the lead,
Not rolling on the floor playing with him, not stroking him when he wants, giving him a sitting place and making him sit there,
I don't let him on my furniture.
There are a lot of rules...
And its probably very frustrating for him, but from all the advice about being a pack leader, we are getting there.
He just has all this energy and doesn't seem to get it out.
He's not been neutered yet so some of the other dogs get really aggressive...
He needs doogie friends, and he will soon enough.
The only dogs that seem to be able to like and handle his energy are bigger dogs like the well trained rottweiler and German shepherd!

@Mellowgirl ah well, they are an intelligent and energetic breed .
These types of dogs NEED play, exercise and mental challenges.

From what i know, i can think of two things that might help.
More exercise, especially with challenges, ie: fetching . These types of dogs love running and searching, it engages their senses.

The other is : when they go to jump up, you put your hand out flat in front of them , (or above them, if you are standing and they go to jump up).
And you do it close , like RIGHT in front of their face, or right above their head .
It passively blocks them.

Ive used this on danes, mastiffs, huskies, greyhounds, mixed breeds, mongrels, staffies, boxers... and even cats😆

Mind you, smaller dogs are better at dodging this, than big dogs😏

Ive tried quite a few methods to stop jumping behaviour, and this has been, by far, the most effective one. Especially coupled with a calm 'no', (or some other command or sound).
Its just a really good alpha move: not aggressive , just assertive . It doesnt punish or chastise , it just 'stops' them.
And when they stop, you then pat them as a reward - but not every time, or then they might learn to do it for the attention.

(And if your hands are full, turning away from them also helps....you give them your back , it shows you aren't engaged with their behaviour. Alpha dogs will do this .)


I hope you overcome this .
Energetic dogs are a challenge.

Edit: also , this is going to sound really hippy dippy, but being an alpha to a dog has a lot to do with attitude. I researched this so much , and watched dogs that I have had who were natural alphas ....and its all about "peaceful rulership of expectation ".
My best alpha female was an expert at this , I learnt so much from her . She was never aggressive, just assertive .
She would 'expect compliance with confidence'. And it WORKED !
I've seen her stop two dogs running to attack her and her pup - just by standing there .... peacefully with authority!
It was nuts. She just stood like a Queen, ..... and they submitted!

And I've read this. You dont 'hope' they will comply....you 'expect' it.
Its a mental attitude.
Its like 'vibes'.
Apparently dogs can pick up vibes . So you need to have a commanding vibe.

Yes ...I know it sounds silly.😆 But I swear it helps.

Feel confident, feel in control, feel peacefully dominant when you interact with your dog .

They pick up on it .

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Sorry for the whole saga. Im just keen on people learning to be pack leaders for their dogs .
The whole philosophy of it changed my attitude to dogs in general, even ones I meet on the street.
It changed training mine into a 'daily attitude' instead of 'training sessions', and helped me help rescue dogs with 'problems' .

Every dog has a need to know their place in a pack, and if they dont have an alpha to follow , they will try for that position themselves, even if they aren't ready for it . Its just a natural instinct.

@OogieBoogie he is very mouthy so hands, when in that mode, he sees as something to bite. Not painfully just as a form of play.
When I've turned away before he pulls at the hanging straps on my bag.
Or my clothes.
He only stops if I put him on the floor abd hold him in place by the harness. And tell him to calm down, I wait until his heart rate stops.
And he seems calm.
Sometimes though he tries to be clever, waiting until I calm him down only to start again. But then we have to go back to square one.
I appreciate the advice, I think he's picking up on my tiredness.
Because I am shattered. Lack of friends...
We're indoors a lot because he doesn't know how to behave, the amount of t-shirts im going to have to bin.
Plus the breeder is taking the piss atm (that's another story)