@Hedonist: hahahahahahahaha.........sorry sir......thanks for your awesome advise i will be using it .......but i just want to find out isn't that also somewhat selfish if you better half doesn't know all about me as a person ......but it will be chaos if i do decide to tell her.......and it has been troubling me to tell or not to tell

@wudifu: Is it really something she has to know? How would it benefit her to know? Why would it be "chaos" if she doesn't know?

no if she knows it will be chaos......i think ......i have lots of sins to confess

i am actually really lucky to have her......she is a really good woman and i don't want to lose her due to stupidity......

and im also so happy that i have 2 old people helping me here .....a woman and a wise old man

thanks

thanks