Is your standard of rating peoples beauty off from the general standard?

@JustNik yeah that too! but for example i rate beauty in 3 categories. beauty, something that needs to be preserved. a bodily work of art! something i'd put on a pillar to show off.
cuteness, something mostly small that you want to protect that you want no harm to come too and feel like cuddling with.
sexiness, which makes you want to do stuff with them! the scandalous things or provoke that idea.

so for example in highschool their was a girl and beauty wise she was decent.
she had no cuteness factor, and her beauty was limited by dead fish eyes and smoking habits with personal issues.
but she exuded a big sexual vibe. so it would be beauty 6, cuteness 0, sexiness 10! so overall a lovely looking person.

while others just saw the dead fish eyes the unruly hair and clear smoking negative effects.

its the same with a user on here. she uses a pair of her breasts as a profile picture but i've seen her pictures of her full apearance and she is small and cute and beautiful.
so the boobs do nothing for me as i don't see her as sexual but as something cute and beautiful.

i know its a bit weird xD
but expression and the soul and intellect go in those 3 categories too.
wit is sexy, intelligence is sexy and beautiful, kindness is cute and beautiful.

(also this is only after i had my first impressions) its just putting my thoughts into something i can visualize.)

@popmol you have a good understanding of how you work. That can only serve you well! 😄👍

@JustNik haha its just an explanation behind it for me its mostly wow she is a gorgeous lady! looks, then looks away to not be rude and try to steal glances! :p probably not subtle but most likely i'll never see them again so :p

@popmol LOL an effort not to be rude is more than most offer! 😂🤗👍

@JustNik i just find it hard to not look at something i like! but i won't say anything or look from a distance, or go up to them politely say you're beautiful and then run away! a bit like the doorbell ringing thing xD

also i never do this with store employees! no matter how beautiful she is i won't tell her because she is within the constraints of the store, she can't jsut yell at people even if she didn't like them so i won't.

@popmol You’re very thoughtful. 🤗

@JustNik well i feel thankful for their beauty and feel bad that they can't look at something nice with me so thats the least i can do :p

@popmol oh poo. You’re quite nice looking, if that’s your picture! If they’re not lining up, I suspect it’s because you hide what beautiful character you have.

@JustNik no i'm weird, autistic, depressed, overweight, no idea how to be romantic! (i'm the man in the picture :p)
my plan was to get all the skill neccesary to make sure a women didn't want to leave me.
like improving my cooking, and go to massage courses just to bring something in the relationship that could help.
so she would be like "mmh he isn't great but the benefits are great so i'll stay"

@popmol maybe put more effort into recognizing the value you already have. Everybody’s weird, my friend. Autism isn’t unlovable, neither is depression or a few extra pounds. And there is no quality more romantic than the thoughtfulness you possess in spades. You don’t want someone who stays because you lick their boots. You want someone who appreciates the effort and the heart behind it, but you can’t find that until you recognize how much it’s worth. I hope you can work on believing you are worthy so you don’t settle for someone who takes advantage. There is no happiness on that path. 🤗🤗🤗

@JustNik well it might not be the best path but i'd hope i'd get some hugs and some happiness out of that path.
but i'm trying but its tough! like i'm not that overweight and such but if i look in the mirror i just see a horrid creature! but i'm trying to work on it!

@popmol that’s all any of us can do! 😄👍🤗

@JustNik i just don't know where i should find this love you describe! online dating isn't working for me and i'd just be a wallflower at parties!

@popmol I think it’s best to focus on believing in yourself and enjoying life and let the love find you when it will. 🙂

@JustNik i'll definitely try :) thanks!