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Why it is that being kind is meant to be a weak person.

I am super kind and people take advantage of me. And I always end up getting hurt.

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Because we are seen as a soft touch or easy mark. I am kind until I sense they are starting or trying to take advantage of me. So I've learned to set better boundaries. You can be kind and still say no. Besides that's being kind to you. You deserve kindness too :)

wallflowerguy · 26-30, M

I think I don't deserve anything. And this am always depressed and sad.

Peaceful · F

@Seriousmonkey: how can you be kind to everyone else but not you? Why do they deserve it, but not you? This is why you keep getting hurt. :(

wallflowerguy · 26-30, M

@Peaceful: idk. I have become very stagnant and have shut down myself from a long time. I have a sad past this I think I don't deserve happiness.

Peaceful · F

@Seriousmonkey: everyone deserves happiness. Of course this isn't a static feeling.
Think of yourself as a bank account. Each time you are kind to people, they are withdrawing something from you. If you don't fill your account back up by being kind and nurturing to you, you become depleted, like an empty bank account.

wallflowerguy · 26-30, M

Wow. That's an amazing analogy.
But I really have become numb and don't know how to do.

Peaceful · F

@Seriousmonkey: start being more loving and forgiving to you. You are way too hard on yourself. We all make choices to learn and hopefully grow. But we can't grow if we are stuck in feelings of guilt and shame.

wallflowerguy · 26-30, M

Can I message you? I did tho

Peaceful · F

@Seriousmonkey: haha! I will go look.

wallflowerguy · 26-30, M

@Peaceful: heh!