hello, What's the best way to get through to your teenager..Thank you

hes 14 and he is my grandson but has lived with me and now he wants to live with his mom which is not the issue..im worried about his future, caught him smoking dope and he isnt doing school work . . just being a brat and im concerned for his mental state and his future..

looks like he's been hanging around the wrong crowds. what kind of discipline have you enforced?

@LindaM: so he wants to move in with his mother, not move out on his own. Is there a reason to think Mom will not get on him for smoking? (Pot I assume?)

Boys seem harder to raise... maybe because they mature more slowly?

I would let him go and let his mom do her job. You may be concerned but he isn't your responsibility.

girls are just as bad especially with boys. so many teens are sexting and getting pregnant at young ages and throwing fits and wanting to be adults at much younger ages.

@theowl: i am single parent and i have grounded him taken x box away but those things dont fizz him because he doesnt go out much and hardly play his x box anymore..i think he is in depression and i have spoken to a cousellor who is going to set him up in a meeting but in the interim i dont know what to do..right now he doesnt like me and hasnt for a while...he disrespects me all the time by calling me names, i try to ignore him but its hard when i know he has all this school assignments to do and he isnt doing them...he is moving out in January but its today im worried about...

@Doomflower: i know but i love him he is like my son and ive always been in his life..i do have concerns of him living with his mom, she is my daugther..she has issues too

i would have been forceful. but it seems more and more kids now a days dont listen to people or respect others. kind of why theres so many trouble teens and adults of today.. people around my age and younger are out of control.

@theowl: i want him to have a successful life and be happy and i dont mean make lots of money...i have done the best i could but he blames me just like his mom blamed me for all their problems and i cant make them understand that it has nothing to do with me, it is them..my grandson has a dad who is semi active in his live my daughter even less..it has always been me and i am far from perfect but i try really hard to make his life a good one..right now it does not appear i did a good job :(