Would I be sad if I pay for a sperm donor?
I don't know what my future holds but if I wanted to take matters into my own hands would that be too much?
31-35, F
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hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M
I don't think 'taking it in your own hands' will get you pregnant..... Wouldn't paying your baby's daddy to get you pregnant make him a male hooker? I suspect most guys would breed you for free if you asked them to come to bed in a nice way.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@hippyjoe1955 I don't want to take them to bed. If it were like that I may as well go to clubs and pull any guy for a one night stand.
hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M
@Mellowgirl Without meaning any disrespect whatsoever what is the difference? Honest question. Trying to understand your logic/feelings and not make light of them.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@hippyjoe1955 we'd get to know each other, especially on hospital visits. In the end we part ways. But at least I'd know who he is
hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M
@Mellowgirl Makes sense. I knew a lady that used a local sperm bank to get pregnant. She had a little girl. The woman and the girl never knew who the father was. Not sure if that is a good thing or not.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@hippyjoe1955 Well there are worse ways for a child to be conceived...
hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M
@Mellowgirl I suppose so. I think it best for a man and a woman to bond for life and produce their own children and raise them in a loving and nurturing home.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@hippyjoe1955 I waited 10 years for the love of my life to get his act together. All he did was turn around and tell me he wanted to keep things casual. I put my life on hold for him at his request.
My chances to conceive I keep being told go down hill from now. So as you can imagine time is not on my side and patience has worn thin. Either I take matters into my own hands or I grow old and regretful
My chances to conceive I keep being told go down hill from now. So as you can imagine time is not on my side and patience has worn thin. Either I take matters into my own hands or I grow old and regretful
hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M
@Mellowgirl Yeah I do understand. Sad that you held on to him for that length of time even though I understand your reasoning. He was never going to be father material so.....
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@hippyjoe1955 and there you go. People always have the I told you so but whilst I was in the situation people kept telling me that well maybe I was wrong about him. Some against him some thinking I was pressuring him so here we are.
We gotta live our lives to suit us.
We gotta live our lives to suit us.
hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M
@Mellowgirl Absolutely. I am not criticizing you for your life choices. Your choice remains your choice. The question you face is the way forward not the way backward.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@hippyjoe1955 forward is a new chapter
hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M
@Mellowgirl That it is. I do hope and pray for nothing but the best for you and the children you will bear.