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How long will it be until I stop wanting my ex?

He's the first thing I think of most mornings and sometimes 3 or so times fleeting in the day.

I can't work out if it's the routine of our on/off again or if it's a genuine longing.

My desire to be physical isn't there. But to just share some of the best things that has happened recently is grating on me.

I feel lost.

We've known each other since 2009.

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Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

Keep yourself busy. Make yourself believe that they hate you.

If you feel the mildest attraction, you'll be drawn towards them. If you have to go cold turkey then you need to work on it.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Beatbox34 he blocked me.
He sent me a really weird message. Called.
And emailed pretending to be some girl.

He ruined my 30th birthday.

I hate that he did that.
But I know his stupid immature mind was trying to get back at me.

He was messing me around. With the mind games and I just couldn't take it when I was trying to grieve.

I should only feel anger but I actually feel sorry that he needed to do that.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Mellowgirl I've been there.

He seems to be playing with your emotions. If someone loves you then they can be direct about it. No need to beat around the bush.

You deserve much better buddy. I know this will hurt you. I've been there and we all deal with this at some point of our lives.

Anyone who loves you will never play mindgames with you.

You need to block him. Keep yourself occupied like that super occupied. Work more. Do a lot of exercise. Treat your body as a temple and fix something in your life that you need to. Focus on your goals.

I used to sulk in the sorrow and then I thought "The sun will still rise as the moon shines at night. Nothing will stop. Time doesn't stop so why should we?".

This thing helped me move forward. Yes it will hurt you but don't let it hurt you more by keeping yourself free. The more occupied your mind is, the less time you'll have to think about the pain.

I wish you the best and hope it gets better for you. I'm rooting for you 🤗

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Beatbox34 thank you for your kindness. X

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Mellowgirl Your welcome buddy. Just remember. Nothing lasts forever and neither will this pain.

SW-User

He sent me a really weird message. Called.
And emailed pretending to be some girl.

He ruined my 30th birthday.

I hate that he did that.
But I know his stupid immature mind was trying to get back at me.

He was messing me around. With the mind games and I just couldn't take it when I was trying to grieve.

I should only feel anger but I actually feel sorry that he needed to do that.

@Mellowgirl aw this is awful, seriously red flags right there 🚩 you deserve better! It’s hard moving and but know it’s for the best. 😞