What's your thoughts on lateness?

@SW-User I remember I met someone that would be late so instead they never set a specific time they'd just say I'm on the way then give updates. If we were going somewhere they'd ask how long it would take me to get ready then meet me at mine when they thought I was nearly done so I couldn't complain of their lateness to the venue

@Mellowgirl That's a lot of work to deal with being late. Some people just are though, it doesn't seem to change.

@SW-User I generally try to understand why someone is late, if it's routinely.
When it's meeting me, my thoughts wonder am I doing something to make them nervous. Especially if they were on time before

@Mellowgirl yeah I think people generally try to be on time, but something gets in the way. Some people get anxious about going places and end up really early or really late.

@SW-User Its a Shame really. Because when we get annoyed it only makes their problem worse.
Some people really make you feel like an ogre

@Mellowgirl true, I guess you have to talk about it at some point

@SW-User my last employer refused to discuss it with me. Instead they altered my shift times but I still came in late. Personally, they would have done better to talk to me. Its funny because I knew everyone else was talking, including asking reception to monitor my arrival

@Mellowgirl work is a different situation you really have to get there on time.. You risk losing your job for one.

@SW-User I was suffering anxiety which is why I was late. But before that started when I injured my knee, I was on time. Sometimes helping other staff members set up their rooms, and anything that needed doing without being asked. But people started getting all butt hurt and spiteful acting like I was stepping on their toes, even though the very things I helped them with were the things they either didn't remember to do, didn't want to do or I was asked.
Sabotaging and just being really malicious.
I had 8 minute lunches as they overbooked my list, I worked out that I only went to the bathroom on the days I had my period, because I wanted to go out to lunch they started telling me I needed to bring lunch in, even querying why I ate the food I did (that I should have hot food instead of cold), I just got fed up with how they treated me especially given every shift I'd stay back to help with packing away.

It was the only thing I had control over.

@Mellowgirl I hear you. I wonder how you can deal with that anxiety and get on track again? It's definitely a not a good situation to be in. Things like that tend to snowball and everything can get worse, as you know.

@SW-User Well I found on the days I wasn't supposed to be working I was OK so I went in for cpd training and I was fine. But the next day I was starting at 7.30 I arrived 7.49 (but it was my last day) a part of me used to do it because they didn't appreciate me, so I scaled back on all the things I was doing without their knowledge.
They started noticing and addressing it in meetings but I just got fed up.
Now I have a new job!
They still found fault in my work simply because I didn't follow a protocol I wasn't made aware of.

@Mellowgirl if you like the new job it'll probably help make things a lot better for you

@SW-User I truly hope so

@SW-User they were just nasty!

@Mellowgirl yep, some people are