First day of my new job went well.

@SW-User Hell yeah. I just wish that I can convince my best friend to get a job because all she wants to do is collect an appointment and sit on her ass all day watching cartoons and she’s 30. Not trying to sound blunt but that’s pathetic. I mean it’s OK to like watching cartoons but she needs to be working and plus our president say that to collect unemployment we have to be looking for work I’m I’m so glad he is doing that.

@ElizabethBabe1994 Yeah, maybe she'd be interested in getting a job working with you!

@SW-User maybe I was even trying to get her to apply here. She said she likes kids but she doesn’t want to be a teacher. I even gave her links of jobs that are opening because there are a lot of places that are hiring

@ElizabethBabe1994 Well it sounds like you did your part at least.

@SW-User yeah I’m getting really fed up with her and I might have to lash out some tough love on her. She depends on her parents all the time and she doesn’t need to do that. She needs to let them go and be a woman of her own. Her parents are getting her to be an independent woman and she’s worked before so she has no excuse. And they’re trying to convince me to talk to her since I’m her best friend and talk some sense into her. I mean, what can I do?

@ElizabethBabe1994 Sounds like you're doing what you can for now! You're being a good friend by telling her what she needs to hear I think.

@SW-User Well I’m her best friend. I have to call it as it is, even if it hurts. Friends don’t sugarcoat stuff to each other. I told her that she’s being very lazy and she needs to stop depending on her parents because they’re going to be gone soon and when they’re dead you’re going to regret not being independent earlier and chose to do things on your own. Sounds blunt but it’s the truth. I told her she needs to start taking care of her goddamn stuff and let go of her parents and let them live their lives and they’ve done their job raising you and start being a damn woman. I told her to stop being lazy and get her ass up and look for a job. That’s EXACTLY how I told her. Of course she got mad at me but you know it is better than making her happy with sugarcoated lies. I mean she’s 30! She should be able to handle the painful, blunt truth.

@ElizabethBabe1994 I generally agree. There's a line of kindness though that you want to make sure she knows you still care for and love her for who she is. Perhaps follow up with her gently and see how she responds.

@SW-User of course I care and I love her that’s why I told her the truth. She said I’m trying to be mean to her but I’m not I’m just telling her the truth and she needed to hear it because no one else is saying it to her. I know her parents were telling her that too but this is ridiculous she’s 30 years old for crying out loud. And I told her all that today when she called me and complain about her parents threatening to kick her out.

@ElizabethBabe1994 yeah, I have to say I'd side with the parents if she's unwilling to help them at least with expenses. What do you think she will decide to do?

@SW-User I don’t know but that’s up to her. I can’t make choices for her she’s 30 years old. Maybe if her parents give her some consequences and give her tough love then she’ll have to change.

@ElizabethBabe1994 Yeah, good luck on future conversations, hope it goes alright.

@SW-User thank you so much

@ElizabethBabe1994 you're very welcome!