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never had an abortion but had to consider when I got pregnant in December after I was broken up with. That was incredibly hard. I used to not be pro-choice at all until two years ago, and even then it was hard for me to understand until I was faced with it myself.
I'm generally emotionally unstable, have no income, yet I was pregnant while going through a breakup which just made things worse. One week I was very excited and just trying to figure out how to get my life together. I guess being in love does that to you lol. Next week it was about wondering if I should kill my own baby or not. To me I was very attached because it was the baby between me and someone I loved.
I miscarried in the end.
But I remember thinking I was going to have to jump off a building and kill myself and them if I couldn't get an abortion and was planning to by time second trimester came around.
And now I'm pregnant, but its different. It wasn't considered consensual and I really trusted him because I had known him and things didn't turn out the way I wanted. I'm considering my options but kind of already attached so its difficult. I swing wildly between wanting one and not wanting one. Emotionally I'm drained. Numb or moody. Running out of time to make a decision. plus losing a baby is hard enough on me so I guess its no surprise I'm attached....
but there is a lot of resentment.
Abortions are not easy, oftentimes they send you home with pain medication and you just have to hope things go okay, if not you have to come in a second time to get scraped out. They will scrape you out sometimes after a miscarriage too. I almost had to get a D&C myself after miscarriage. Honestly the pill option is not any different from having a miscarriage and they will tell you that. Even so, its very scary. Its not something people use for birth control or because its fun. Anyone who tells you its so is lying.
It takes a lot of work to get an appointment and go in. And you have to carry that around for the rest of your life in the form of judgement from people and stigma.
As for putting the baby up for adoption, hard to describe what that is like. The amount of emotional pain that puts you through. Birth in of itself is life changing and also life threatening. If you get attached after then its extremely hard to let go of them and I feel like that would have broke me enough to where I would commit suicide. there's a lot of hormones in the body at that point and it just complicates things, top that with carrying for 9 months and going through a body altering process. Its not easy. But people who haven't gone through it will always happily talk about it as if they have any idea of what's its like. People treat you like an incubator.
or praise you for giving to adoption. In reality it just makes you feel like an incubator lol. In general I feel like I'm seen as an incubator to some people.
I'm generally emotionally unstable, have no income, yet I was pregnant while going through a breakup which just made things worse. One week I was very excited and just trying to figure out how to get my life together. I guess being in love does that to you lol. Next week it was about wondering if I should kill my own baby or not. To me I was very attached because it was the baby between me and someone I loved.
I miscarried in the end.
But I remember thinking I was going to have to jump off a building and kill myself and them if I couldn't get an abortion and was planning to by time second trimester came around.
And now I'm pregnant, but its different. It wasn't considered consensual and I really trusted him because I had known him and things didn't turn out the way I wanted. I'm considering my options but kind of already attached so its difficult. I swing wildly between wanting one and not wanting one. Emotionally I'm drained. Numb or moody. Running out of time to make a decision. plus losing a baby is hard enough on me so I guess its no surprise I'm attached....
but there is a lot of resentment.
Abortions are not easy, oftentimes they send you home with pain medication and you just have to hope things go okay, if not you have to come in a second time to get scraped out. They will scrape you out sometimes after a miscarriage too. I almost had to get a D&C myself after miscarriage. Honestly the pill option is not any different from having a miscarriage and they will tell you that. Even so, its very scary. Its not something people use for birth control or because its fun. Anyone who tells you its so is lying.
It takes a lot of work to get an appointment and go in. And you have to carry that around for the rest of your life in the form of judgement from people and stigma.
As for putting the baby up for adoption, hard to describe what that is like. The amount of emotional pain that puts you through. Birth in of itself is life changing and also life threatening. If you get attached after then its extremely hard to let go of them and I feel like that would have broke me enough to where I would commit suicide. there's a lot of hormones in the body at that point and it just complicates things, top that with carrying for 9 months and going through a body altering process. Its not easy. But people who haven't gone through it will always happily talk about it as if they have any idea of what's its like. People treat you like an incubator.
or praise you for giving to adoption. In reality it just makes you feel like an incubator lol. In general I feel like I'm seen as an incubator to some people.
