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quitwhendone · M
Like what? How?
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@quitwhendone [c=#4C0073]The differences in experiences. Our perceptions are shaped through our experiences. They way you perceive an incident may be completely opposite of mine because I can understand and identify with different aspects of them like culture, race, gender, nationality and vice versa.[/c]
quitwhendone · M
@VioletRayne Hmmm, ok.
So when someone "invalidates your experience," they are essentially disagreeing with your perception and using their own perceptions in life? Or am I not following?
Can you give an example of someone invalidating another's experiences?
So when someone "invalidates your experience," they are essentially disagreeing with your perception and using their own perceptions in life? Or am I not following?
Can you give an example of someone invalidating another's experiences?
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@quitwhendone [c=#4C0073]yes like say for instance a black woman expresses her struggle with her hair. Another black woman says, “oh yeah I completely understand.” A white man comes up and says, “ ugh everyone struggles with their hair.”
He invalidated their experience by trying to downplay the unique experiences of black individuals especially women and the scrutiny they receive towards appearance.[/c]
He invalidated their experience by trying to downplay the unique experiences of black individuals especially women and the scrutiny they receive towards appearance.[/c]
quitwhendone · M
@VioletRayne Hmmm, ok. I don't necessarily think that's what is going on there in that particular instance but it depends in the man and what he is thinking. He certaunly could be invalidating her experience but couldn't it also be something else?
Suppose a black woman responded, "ugh everyone struggles with their hair?" What would you call that?
Can you give one more example, please.
Suppose a black woman responded, "ugh everyone struggles with their hair?" What would you call that?
Can you give one more example, please.
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@quitwhendone [c=#4C0073]I would ask her in what way? Has everyone been denied employment because their hair was considered “distracting, unkempt, unprofessional.” Has everyone been required to chemically treat, straighten, or shear their hair in order to be seen as decent or acceptable?
A gay man expresses the negative treatment he experiences as a gay man. A straight man says, “what are you talking about? Everyone loves gay people. They get praised for just being gay!”
That’s an invalidation of the millions of gay people who are assaulted for being gay. Those who are killed for being gay, and disowned by their families. [/c]
A gay man expresses the negative treatment he experiences as a gay man. A straight man says, “what are you talking about? Everyone loves gay people. They get praised for just being gay!”
That’s an invalidation of the millions of gay people who are assaulted for being gay. Those who are killed for being gay, and disowned by their families. [/c]
quitwhendone · M
@VioletRayne Ok, I see it more clearly now. Thanks.
That hair example brings up other ideas in my head not related to validation. But, I know, it was just intended as an illustration.
That hair example brings up other ideas in my head not related to validation. But, I know, it was just intended as an illustration.