they do this because most probably you taught them like this by simply doing all these.
You must find something that you enjoy doing, anything, and claim time to do it just like all of the rest do. Even if it's not a job or something that brings money to the table.
Then by doing this you will simply get sometime off the household keep up and put sometime more in you.
Slowly -here you got to be patient, it's going to change slowly- but out of necessity the rest will begin being more active towards the household.. you will help with giving them some hints or guidelines - for example put the shopping list on fridge so they can buy the stuff, you can still cook, someone else could clean after... I have observed many women getting into this role and the only way to change it is by yourself, for the rest that is just how things are and "what else would she be doing" if you have no other interests or hobbies or just claiming time to yourself..
I don't say at all to not be loving and to not prepare things with love for your family, but to show them the way to show some love towards you too, by sharing some of your load.
wish you luck, change is never too easy 🤗
