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Dan193 · 31-35, M
@SW-User I find myself getting close to people very fast because of my friendly nature, but then I start to feel like they're too close, that I need space, that friends cloud my judgement and take up all my free time, that some of the stuff they talk, I don't care about at all and I wish they'd just shut up and not waste my time. So then I beging avoiding them and not being responsive when they try to interact with me, until the relationship cools down, then I find myself trying to be friendly again with them.
And to a degree or another this pattern happens to me with everyone in my life, friends, girls, parents, family, co-workers, etc.
I struggle to find a solution, because I don't want to be always alone, I want to have those rwlationships and to have people to hang out with randomly and have that trust, but at the same time I enjoy being alone and detached.
And to a degree or another this pattern happens to me with everyone in my life, friends, girls, parents, family, co-workers, etc.
I struggle to find a solution, because I don't want to be always alone, I want to have those rwlationships and to have people to hang out with randomly and have that trust, but at the same time I enjoy being alone and detached.
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Peaceful · F
I'm comfortable in my own skin.
I left my home country knowing no one, nor the language, never having visited and have never been more happy.
I can entertain myself through books, imagination and more knowledge. I appreciate nature more because I get to experience the oneness of it without being distracted by others and their perceptions.
I left my home country knowing no one, nor the language, never having visited and have never been more happy.
I can entertain myself through books, imagination and more knowledge. I appreciate nature more because I get to experience the oneness of it without being distracted by others and their perceptions.
ButterRobot · 51-55, M
have some of the most amazing rewarding beautiful experience n gain lots of weird kinks learn to push yourself to new limits and learn you dont need that much to get by enjoy the lil pleasures big inner world imagination sensitivity and when you run into other odd ppl its fxck hot usually short... or rot alone in the corner and enjoy it from afar some ppl do just humming to themselves or crying. less fear more awareness everything can disappear in an instant. you notice a lot more.
CestManan · 46-50, F
That one guy was articulating the articulations and combobulations and sounding all entelijunt but I shall translate -
Not having to put up with people's BS, Not having "friends" trying to steal from you, yor time is yours.
The bad part is it gets lonely and boring. Then negative thoughts creep in and you start wondering where things went wrong. You start thinking of all your shortcomings.
Not having to put up with people's BS, Not having "friends" trying to steal from you, yor time is yours.
The bad part is it gets lonely and boring. Then negative thoughts creep in and you start wondering where things went wrong. You start thinking of all your shortcomings.
CestManan · 46-50, F
@Dan193 I would say make friends but for the loner, that can be difficult and exhausting.
I know what is NOT the solution - things like volunteering or getting involved with whatever clubs or groups. Reasons are -
Volunteering isn't going to increase your social circle.
Getting involved with clubs is silly because the regulars mostly shun new members (unless it is some young pretty woman that all the men want to sleep with) and then you just end up "alone in a crowded room".
I know cause I have been in that situation. They expect you to work your way up, so to speak. Sounds like a high school clique doesn't it?
I think once we are out of school, it is hard to have a social life because people are busy with work, tied down with a spouse and kids, or sitting in their parent's house playing video games.
I do not have a solution. I am a loner and basically I just find things to keep myself busy. House work, hobbies that soon get boring, playing on the web, and just whatever off-hand time wasting crap I can find.
I know what is NOT the solution - things like volunteering or getting involved with whatever clubs or groups. Reasons are -
Volunteering isn't going to increase your social circle.
Getting involved with clubs is silly because the regulars mostly shun new members (unless it is some young pretty woman that all the men want to sleep with) and then you just end up "alone in a crowded room".
I know cause I have been in that situation. They expect you to work your way up, so to speak. Sounds like a high school clique doesn't it?
I think once we are out of school, it is hard to have a social life because people are busy with work, tied down with a spouse and kids, or sitting in their parent's house playing video games.
I do not have a solution. I am a loner and basically I just find things to keep myself busy. House work, hobbies that soon get boring, playing on the web, and just whatever off-hand time wasting crap I can find.
