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What's wrong with me?

My alcoholic ex decides to come over to my place unannounced after a long while because I changed my number and he had no other way to contact me. Of course I let him in, I'm starting to question my sanity now. I've always had a delayed response maybe I'm high functioning autistic because I can never set boundaries even well into my 30's. He's sleeping on my sofa now and he promises to be my prince charming and knight in shinning armor. I want to ask him to leave but I feel bad. Why should I feel bad, I have built a good reputation in my neighborhood and I don't want to be seen around with a drunk. Am I a bad person for not wanting to be seen with him. He's very impulsive and he stumbles around drunk. Am I un humain for wanting him to leave after I never invited him over. He claims to love me after all these years, but I left him long ago because he is disorderly. I'm always taken advantage of because of my kindness but lately even I'm starting to think I'm stupid or rather on the slow end of the trail. How should I ask him to leave

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dubkebab · 51-55, M

You know that alcoholics are professional charmers and liars,right?
We can also spot weakness and turn our own flaws into guilt and pity parties which somehow become your fault...cute innit? Perhaps he does still love you,that's beside the point,you don't need to feed into the chaos his world will bring into yours.
You've moved on,continue to do so,set your boundaries and stick to them.
A simple "Dude,it's time to go " would usually work with me when I would pull this act. You are not stupid for showing compassion in the moment,and your sanity is not the problem-his disease is.

RadiantRuby

@dubkebab yup he even cried which is why I felt bad, but I will probably call the police to remove him.

dubkebab · 51-55, M

@RadiantRuby of course he cried
I don't want to trash talk the guy,his pain is real,but I hope he somehow gets a clue that he doesn't have to live this way.It usually takes something drastic.I would advise cops only if he decides to be difficult,usually just a mention of authorities is enough to send a wayward drunk on his(or her) way. Unless there's history of violence,then yup,police intervention.