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Is it bad that I don’t like my elderly neighbor?

I didn’t really like her since she first moved in our neighborhood a year ago. She is sweet but she is always pointing out things and saying it like it is. She got after me for giving my dad a hard time and scold at me to help him cleaning and no picking fights. She can be brutally honest too and that’s what I don’t like about her. I hate when my dad invites her over and some other people find her a sweet, no nonsense woman but I find her irritating. She is always telling it like it is. I try to hid the fact that I left something out or left a mess, she calls me out on it. My older brother even said I need to stop acting like a brat and listen to our elder. She acts mean to you because you’re mean to her. Start respecting her and stop all that crying to make yourself the victim. Just sad and pathetic.
That didn’t make me feel better. I don’t like my neighbor and I want her to move away. She is always picking on me. Maybe it’s because I have autism. My dad scold at me saying, “She can come over anytime she wants either you like it or not. Get over yourself! If you can’t handle that, well don’t say anything to her or stay away. I don’t know what else to tell you.”
Rhodesianman · 56-60, M
So ever thought maybe she is right that you need to learn respect for your elders , stop acting like a spoilt brat and pull your weight at home .Being autistic is not an excuse for acting like a brat .Grow up .
AutismGirl18 · 18-21, F
@Rhodesianman You’re mean! I can’t believe you’re taking her and my brother and dads side!
Rhodesianman · 56-60, M
@AutismGirl18 Maybe because their right .If you were my daughter and behaved like that you would get your backside warmed .
AutismGirl18 · 18-21, F
MrsPeterEvans · 31-35, F
Does she feel you need more discipline?
MrsPeterEvans · 31-35, F
@AutismGirl18 I had a strict dad. Just the way she talks about mess. Has she said anything?
AutismGirl18 · 18-21, F
@MrsPeterEvans She thinks I’m using my disability as an excuse to get away with stuff
MrsPeterEvans · 31-35, F
@AutismGirl18 I am sure your father would not permit that? It is not physical so nothing to stop you getting a spanking for example.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
I think and hope that most likely she is trying to help and share her wisdom. Not every old person is wise though.
But you can use this opportunity to improve yourself.
#1: Learn how to deal with people that you do not like. You will always have one or two in your life.
#2 Don't react with emotions, rely on logic. Are you rude to your father? Why does everyone like this woman except you?
#3 She is not your parent and ultimately you do not have to listen to her but, showing your elders respect is something that is almost never wrong. You can respect her without having to treat her words as law.
#4 Learn to be diplomatic in your dealings with her but avoid her as much as possible

 
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