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Update: mood has been ruined

Mom talked about how all anyone does is sit on their ass and get fatter and then she said I’m wearing too much make up . Well guess what? Make up was helping me cope with an abusive boyfriend that I have to stay with because she keeps saying she’ll never have grandkids .

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JupiterDreams · 31-35

[i]Dump him[/i]. This is not healthy. Don't spend the rest of your life with someone that's going to abuse you.

And it doesn't matter if your parent wants grandkids. It's not her life, not her choice. What you want is more important.

antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F

Problem is I actually want kids I’m just running out of time you have to make progress to get that @JupiterDreams

allsfinebime2 · M

@antisocialbutterfly If you are looking for progression as a team? That's one team member that I would not rely on for progression sake. Get out before it's too late. Find another team mate for your own good as well as for the good of your future children.. Good luck.

JupiterDreams · 31-35

@antisocialbutterfly You're not running out of time. There is no specific timeline to have kids.

Second, think about this, and really think about it: do you want your children to be caught in this abusive relationship? If he does it to you, he'll do it to them.
Do you want them to grow up in a toxic, abusive environment? To learn from that? A boy to grow up thinking it's okay to abuse women? A girl to think it's okay to take it?

You deserve better, including your unborn children.

antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F

Literally almost 22 how in the world am I supposed to get married by 23 if I start over again @JupiterDreams

allsfinebime2 · M

@JupiterDreams 🤗 👍️

allsfinebime2 · M

@antisocialbutterfly 23 is still very young. You have lots of time. PS. Listen to JupiterDreams. She knows her stuff. You should never just settle. Especially at your age antisocialbutterfly. 👍️

JupiterDreams · 31-35

@antisocialbutterfly Why do you want to settle so young? Are you afraid to be alone?
I'm not trying to come off tough, I just hate to think you're going to be caught in a lifelong abusive relationship (that you don't deserve) and kids that will learn from that behavior.

There's more to life than relationships. No one should ever settle. You need to find someone that's going to treat you right, whether you're 23 or 30.

antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F

Everyone in my family got married young . I ain’t About to be the spinster failure @JupiterDreams

NerdyPotato · M

@antisocialbutterfly starting kids at 30 or 35 is not being a spinster. You have plenty of time left to find a good father. Whether you want to settle for abuse is your choice, but don't put your future children in danger just because you're in a hurry to follow the example of your family.

antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F

You don’t understand @NerdyPotato

NerdyPotato · M

@antisocialbutterfly what is there to understand? Do you think your abusive boyfriend would be a good father for your children?

antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F

WHY not?@NerdyPotato

BlueVeins · 22-25

@antisocialbutterfly bc he'll be too busy playing Fortnite to actually do anything with them

NerdyPotato · M

@antisocialbutterfly being abusive and making everyone around him miserable is a pretty good reason not to submit children to his behavior.

antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F

What’s so bad about that ? I love kids I will spend time with them .@BlueVeins

BlueVeins · 22-25

@antisocialbutterfly You're gonna have a job and are gonna have to take care of him, too. Besides, kids deserve two loving parents not just one, if at all possible.