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Did your parents beat you?

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karinaal · 70-79, F
My mother spanked me when I deserved it. It was not beatings but proper and beneficial punishment.
Doomflower · 36-40, M
Spanking is hitting and hitting is abuse.
karinaal · 70-79, F
That hitting is abuse is your opinion and you are entitled to it but if you want to be taken seriously you should support it with arguments.
Doomflower · 36-40, M
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/27055181

Meta analysis of thousands of children and five decades of research. At this point saying spanking isn't harmful is like denying climate change.
karinaal · 70-79, F
I know all about these researches and the 'experts' that earn good money producing them. I also know that if spanking was just half as harmful as claimed then it already many milleniums ago would have caused such disasters that humanity would have self-destructed.
Hitting can be used in abusive ways and then it no longer is spanking but violence but you can hurt and harm a child much worse without ever spanking.
What matters is that the child experience being loved, wanted and respected; if it does that it also instinctively understands and accepts that it must be punished for misbehaving. And spanking is a swift and easily understood kind of punishment - as opposed to most if not all kinds of non-physical punishemnts.
Doomflower · 36-40, M
Obviously you did not read the study and how it defines spankings. You also misunderstand that just because something is harmful and increases likelihood of negative outcomes it does not mean the victim of the abuse will become a serial killer.

A chart for you:
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
@Doomflower: lmfao, super trollololol action! :D

bows, if there was a crown...... we'd name a cola after it. (hops on time machine)

---by the way, that's the result of a child who was beaten a little too much, don't hate me because i have slop for brains.
karinaal · 70-79, F
I know it and it is very nice theoretically.
The problem is just that it does not describe how life in reality is and it does not take into consideration that words can be amd often are much more hurting and harmful than spanking.