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Niece doesn’t like kindergarten, what should we do?

About two weeks ago, my niece began throwing tantrums that she doesn’t want to go to school. She has stated many things, like she’s just really bored, her throat and stomach hurt, the teacher is mean to other kids sometimes, it’s cold, I’m scared, and that she wants her mommy to be there. We’ve talked to her teacher and she says that my niece only tells her that she wants her mom. We feel like she is just tired and bored and is looking for any excuse to stay home and watch TV. We don’t know how to get her out of this state of mind. It’s her first year, and we know it is a big change, but she can’t skip school forever. How do we get her to enjoy it and accept it as part of her routine now?

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Benarro · 31-35, M

you should try to find out if anying bad is going on at the preschool. Like a teacher who doesn't like her and picks on her, or a bad new teacher, or an issue she's scared about (peeing etc.). You should take her very seriously! Talk to other parents see if they have had complaints from the kids.

LookingForIt987 · 51-55, M

If she's bored, that's something that could cause her to hate school and not want to be there. The teacher, though, should be capable of recognizing that. That said, though... can your niece, for example, already read? Count forward and backward to 20 or so? Write her name properly? If she can do all those (and other 'basics' of course) she's probably telling the truth with the "I'm bored" cries. If the teacher isn't doing anything about it, you may need to setup a meeting with the school guidance counselor. Depending where you live, of course, they may very well have a program for "gifted" students, that will provide her with more challenging work.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

It would appear that her parents need some education in the "Do as I tell you" department. She has obviously been watching too much TV, where the four year olds run the world.

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Benarro · 31-35, M

@whowasthatmaskedman what does her logical ability have to do with it? The point is that if you get complaints by kids about the place you ought to do some investigating to see if there's any truth to the comments. How is that not the only responsible course of action? What's the alternative, ignore it completely. You make no sense, sir. Sorry.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@Benarro Sadly it is you who is making no sense. The majority of the complaints from her you note are about HER, not the place, Stomach hurts, sore throat, bored.. etc. If there was a constant theme against the building or the staff, I would certainly investigate. What you have there is attention seeking or a grab for sympathy. I recommend a little googling on child psychology.

Benarro · 31-35, M

@whowasthatmaskedman and "the teacher is mean to other kids sometimes, it’s cold, I’m scared" but ok you're the expert, nothing to read into there (and bear in mind I'm talking purely potentially).

SheCallsMeCrushDaddy · M

i dont know bout ya'll...... but, i didnt give my kids a choice. they just went. i know. rough, huh.

curiosi · 61-69, F

I suspect she is being bullied or something similar. Something is frightening her.

Fernie · F

how old is she?

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