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edistoflyer · 46-50, M
w8forme, excellent question!
Think in terms of the pre-digital, old-fashioned days of pen pals and mail-order brides. Are these excellent replacements for live, in-person interactions? Hardly, as your innate abilities to subconsciously pick up on cues, assess character and notice huge and subtle things are nigh eliminated.
==> Grandma at the farm would tell her daughter's teen daughter "in love"
with her pen pal to stop that nonsense and go into town and meet up
with friends, "How about that Charlie? He seems like a nice boy..."
Think of a really good fake -- whether a margarine that comes very close to butter in some applications but not all (it spreads readily on toast but ruins seafood and can't be used to make muffins or cake) or the means of making exceptionally good counterfeit money (can be passed off for the real thing at some places but not at others).
==> Great-grandma at the farm would scoff at the mere idea of buying
store-bought white butter substitute that you had to mix in the yellow
food coloring yourself -- wasteful given you can easily make butter at
home. And she'd be hurt when she learns that you traded your genuine,
hard-earned money not realizing you were being given fake dollar bills.
Think in terms of a ship crew member who shares cabin with several others and whose spouse is at home on the other side of the globe. Though still married, their circumstances keep each unable to tend to the spiritual, emotional and physical needs of the other while doing nothing to allay their distinct loneliness or their temptations to seek out local fulfillment.
==> Great-Grandma, Grandma, Ma and Pa would all tell you not to marry that
scallywag sailor because you'll be home and all alone until the baby
comes while he's cavorting around with his rum buddies off-ship with
half-naked island girls in the Caribbean.
So what are your thoughts? Do you believe an online "relationship" is digital margarine?
Think in terms of the pre-digital, old-fashioned days of pen pals and mail-order brides. Are these excellent replacements for live, in-person interactions? Hardly, as your innate abilities to subconsciously pick up on cues, assess character and notice huge and subtle things are nigh eliminated.
==> Grandma at the farm would tell her daughter's teen daughter "in love"
with her pen pal to stop that nonsense and go into town and meet up
with friends, "How about that Charlie? He seems like a nice boy..."
Think of a really good fake -- whether a margarine that comes very close to butter in some applications but not all (it spreads readily on toast but ruins seafood and can't be used to make muffins or cake) or the means of making exceptionally good counterfeit money (can be passed off for the real thing at some places but not at others).
==> Great-grandma at the farm would scoff at the mere idea of buying
store-bought white butter substitute that you had to mix in the yellow
food coloring yourself -- wasteful given you can easily make butter at
home. And she'd be hurt when she learns that you traded your genuine,
hard-earned money not realizing you were being given fake dollar bills.
Think in terms of a ship crew member who shares cabin with several others and whose spouse is at home on the other side of the globe. Though still married, their circumstances keep each unable to tend to the spiritual, emotional and physical needs of the other while doing nothing to allay their distinct loneliness or their temptations to seek out local fulfillment.
==> Great-Grandma, Grandma, Ma and Pa would all tell you not to marry that
scallywag sailor because you'll be home and all alone until the baby
comes while he's cavorting around with his rum buddies off-ship with
half-naked island girls in the Caribbean.
So what are your thoughts? Do you believe an online "relationship" is digital margarine?
edistoflyer · 46-50, M
Another thought:
Initiating/pursuing an online "relationship" has never been something done out of selflessness.
Initiating/pursuing an online "relationship" has never been something done out of selflessness.