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Effloresce 路 26-30, F
Yeah sure 馃槃@DarkHeaven
My Dad is a very hard man. He was born and spent his whole childhood in Iceland. He came to the US as a teenager with my grandparents and worked his ass off to become a cattle rancher. He is without a doubt the toughest and hardest man that I鈥檝e ever known my entire life. He is also kind and compassionate but he is never weak and suffers no fools. I鈥檝e always been his princess but princesses have to be smart and tough as nails as well in his book. Probably the only reason I survived my hell is based on what he taught. Don鈥檛 remember the exact details but one summer when I was an arrogant teenager, I was helping my dad and he noticed a break in our fence. Somebody on the dirt road must have clipped it with their car. We hadn鈥檛 had any cattle wander out but it needed a temporary fix to keep them in until we could fully repair the fence. I told my dad I鈥檇 fix it with some bailing wire and he asked if I needed help and I said no because I wanted to prove to him that I can do anything my brothers can. It had been hard to see from the road but when I walked over the break was worse than I had thought. Some of the fence that was still up was bad and the section too long for any bailing wire to work at all. I tried to bail it up the best I could but I knew it wouldn鈥檛 hold them if they pushed up against it but I was way too embarrassed to tell him that it was a bigger job than I could handle. My Dad thought he had at least a few hours to fix it. About an hour later we had about a dozen head break through my shit job. After we got the cattle back he went over and saw that I had to have known that the posts were pulled up and I鈥檇 be a dumbass to think it would hold. He wanted me to apologize for not asking for help when I knew better. My stubborn pride felt that would be weak. He said any child of his too stupid or too arrogant to apologize when they are wrong and know it, could walk the fuck back to the house. It was a long way back home. It was getting evening by the time I got home but I learned a whole lot during my long walk that evening.
1.) I learned my Dad don鈥檛 fuck around.
2.) That I鈥檓 strong enough to hold to my convictions even when I鈥檓 dead wrong.
3.) I learned my Dad won鈥檛 expect me to apologize unless I鈥檓 actually wrong because he wouldn鈥檛.
4.) Most importantly that arrogance is not strength, even it feels like it, it鈥檚 stupidity & weakness of mind.
I鈥檝e watched my Dad apologize since. Not very often because he鈥檚 rarely wrong but all the more moving when he does because it鈥檚 very fucking real.
1.) I learned my Dad don鈥檛 fuck around.
2.) That I鈥檓 strong enough to hold to my convictions even when I鈥檓 dead wrong.
3.) I learned my Dad won鈥檛 expect me to apologize unless I鈥檓 actually wrong because he wouldn鈥檛.
4.) Most importantly that arrogance is not strength, even it feels like it, it鈥檚 stupidity & weakness of mind.
I鈥檝e watched my Dad apologize since. Not very often because he鈥檚 rarely wrong but all the more moving when he does because it鈥檚 very fucking real.
CountScrofula 路 41-45, M
@DarkHeaven Knowing how to be tough, but also how to own up to mistakes is hard as hell. Your dad sounds like he taught you well! Thanks for sharing :)
Effloresce 路 26-30, F
Thanks for sharing :) it鈥檚 great that you were able to get so much out of that one experience with your dad. I鈥檓 known to be very stubborn when it comes to wanting to do things myself so I probably would have done the same thing @DarkHeaven
@CountScrofula He鈥檚 my hero.
@Effloresce 馃枻馃 I鈥檓 a tough girl.