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My best friend is upset because I'm thinking about moving to England with my mother. Does she have a point?

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My brothers think it's a terrible idea and a big mistake. My oldest brother said, "Visit her fine but live with her? I don't think that's a good idea but it's your choice." My best friend was like, "If you wanna hear my opinion on this, I think this idea is nuts. I mean visit your mom, meet a few British people have tea and come back." My mom invited me to visit her. She usually doesn't answer the phone too much or barely returns our calls. She sends us postcards. She walked out on is when we were young and she doesn't seem to regret it. I was hurt that she didn't wanna talk to talk to us on Mother's Day. Anyways my best friend has tons of people to hang with but she rather jump off a cliff. Lol she crazy. I'm excited to see my mother. My dad knows I wanna visit her and I'm getting my plane ticket soon but he doesn't know that I wanna live there. My best friend through a harsh reality in my face and said, "I just can't seem to figure out something, why would you wanna stay with a woman that doesn't give a shit about you? She never calls, returns calls, doesn't seem to be interested in you guys, only thinking of herself and she just proved she doesn't want you. Why are you even considering living with her?"
That really offended me what she said and hurt, but deep down inside, she has a point. Is my best friend right?
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Most behaviors can be changed, unfortunately, in your mothers case highly doubtful mainly because of her inability to express regret, guild, or asking forgivness.

Also, these kinds of maladaptive behaviors worsen over time. If it were me, go for tea and overnight or even two nights. Test the waters, by the end of a couple of days you'll have a good idea of where this situation stands,

I have a sneaking feeling you'll want to come back fairly soon. Don't subject yourself to her obvious acute/chronic negativity. It's hard on your own mental health.
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Yes. She's right.

Your mother has only invited you to visit, not live with her. Get your head straight. You have family and friends that love and care about you. From your own words here, your mother doesn't appear to be that interested in a closer relationship with you. Why would you think she wants you to live with her? You're making a huge mistake in assuming she will change her behavior towards you.
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It seems you posted this looking for people to simply agree with you and tell you you're right, rather than listen to actual objective advice. Best of luck.
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