jerico01 · 31-35, F
I would not take anyone off the internet.
greenmountaingal · 80-89, F
There is no known cure for borderline personality disorder. There no known effective treatment for borderline personality disorder. I worked (as a teacher) in a state mental hospital for 10 years. Borderline personality disordered people were the most difficult people, the most destructive people, the most unpredictable people and the most disliked people in the hospital (by both patients and staff). Most psychologists and staff people would rather work with psychotic people or sociopathic people than BPD people.
Please have the good sense to back off. He is being manipulative with you. He is not someone you want as a friend, online or otherwise. Take care of yourself. Learn one of the greatest skills any young woman can learn; learn to ignore or not act on crushes on difficult, moody or troubled men. It will put you way ahead of the game.
He is giving you a chance to flee this relationship. Take it. Flee. Don't look back.
Please have the good sense to back off. He is being manipulative with you. He is not someone you want as a friend, online or otherwise. Take care of yourself. Learn one of the greatest skills any young woman can learn; learn to ignore or not act on crushes on difficult, moody or troubled men. It will put you way ahead of the game.
He is giving you a chance to flee this relationship. Take it. Flee. Don't look back.
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greenmountaingal · 80-89, F
That is probably why he manipulates.It is an easier way to interact for him.
Consider what you just stated:
1. He gets "triggered" and irritated easily.
(In everyday life we call this having a bad temper).
2. He is afraid of closeness. (A cold, if outwardly dramatic, emotional,personality)
3. Doesn't have the ability to deal with his own feelings. (Often referred to as immaturity).
Are you sure you want to pursue a relationship with someone like this? There is not a lot of room for friendship here.
If you think he is "interesting" and you feel compassion for him and would like to help him...study to become a psychologist and psychotherapist specializing in BPD.
Consider what you just stated:
1. He gets "triggered" and irritated easily.
(In everyday life we call this having a bad temper).
2. He is afraid of closeness. (A cold, if outwardly dramatic, emotional,personality)
3. Doesn't have the ability to deal with his own feelings. (Often referred to as immaturity).
Are you sure you want to pursue a relationship with someone like this? There is not a lot of room for friendship here.
If you think he is "interesting" and you feel compassion for him and would like to help him...study to become a psychologist and psychotherapist specializing in BPD.
friedchickenwing · 26-30, F
@greenmountaingal: I guess was always drawn to him because he reminded me of a more extreme version of me. I didn't know he had bpd until recently and I have a hard time letting go.
I'm still confused about what you mean in the manipulation part though. How and why he does It.
Thanks for your help
I'm still confused about what you mean in the manipulation part though. How and why he does It.
Thanks for your help
greenmountaingal · 80-89, F
CaptainCanadia · 41-45, M
It is very likely it was a temporary trigger. If BPD had a motto it would be "I hate you. Don't leave me."
The entire idea of BPD is an inability to regulate emotions. So your friend could be irritated and irritation turns into full-blown rage. All you need to say is "If you need me I'm here" and maybe check in from time to time until he calms down.
You've got the right tatitude at any rate. My wife has bPD so I'm learning a lot about this.
The entire idea of BPD is an inability to regulate emotions. So your friend could be irritated and irritation turns into full-blown rage. All you need to say is "If you need me I'm here" and maybe check in from time to time until he calms down.
You've got the right tatitude at any rate. My wife has bPD so I'm learning a lot about this.
eastcoastcycler · 61-69, M
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
Just a remark, let it be
friedchickenwing · 26-30, F
But why you guys? I know he's not a catfish
eastcoastcycler · 61-69, M
Listen to green mountain gal. She explains it better than I can. Borderline are experts at sucking the life out of you.