I hope my dad burns in hell

I am a father and truly it breaks my heart to hear how you feel. I am going to say a few things and I hope you sincerely understand that I am speaking from my heart.

No one deserves to be treated or spoken to like that. I hope you understand that and don't repeat the mistakes that he is making with you, with others. I am sure that you will never forget what you have gone through I only hope that you can truly overcome it.

Now I am going to say something that I'm sure you will not be happy with. If you are over 18 years old and you are not mentally or physically disabled you do not have to interact with your father at all. Sometimes we make poor choices and then we are angry with the results. If you have known for many years that your dad is not the best character of person in your opinion, why do you continue to interact with him?

If you were walking up a flight of stairs and the 3rd stair had broken glass on it and it cut your foot. The next time you traveled those stairs you would skip the 3rd stair. So you must understand that as an adult male you continue to walk on the 3rd stair. You do not owe him anything and he does not owe you anything so if you understand that stop interacting with him it is a choice.

My last comments will be this often times we want to remember the bad but we never choose to remember the good. I am sure if you take a moment to reflect he has done some positive things in your life. Perhaps he taught you how to shave took you for your haircuts maybe he even taught you how to drive. I do not know what type of man he is but I will tell you from experience raising children is not easy. There are many times that I would have walked away and many people would have understood. Paying child support and not having any interaction with a child is acceptable in the world. Your father no matter how good or bad chose to do more he is actually there.

Once again I am not excusing his poor choice of words and how he addressed you. I hope that you do not carry any ill feelings about your father throughout. I can tell you from experience it will destroy you more then it will ever affect him. I hope you find peace and harmony in your choices.

If he could do better, he would. He is not the young, healthy man he used to be. Sometimes people often forget is that as you get really old, you start to turn back into a child. You lose your sharpness of maturity, your health, your strength, and in many cases even their mental sharpness anf tolerance.

Just let him go and turn a blind eye. If it helps his ego to harm you, don't listen to him and just let him know you still love him and he is just saying that because he does not know what to say right at the moment and that it is understandable. (Even if it is a lie)

That may help him realize what he's up to .-.
Or he's just a lost cause

Words hurt more than anything physical. I am sorry you have to put up with that. There is no call for it.

you're better than that