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Docdon23 · M
I would use the eyeball test--look in a mirror and answer your own question, or ask someone you trust to look at you. I would NOT rely on a doctor--they use outdated charts of "ideal" weight that does not take body type into account or muscle mass...my own doctor told me the charts said I should lose weight but that I did not seem overweight to her...
Docdon23 · M
@MysticOcean4You Oh, I totally understand--I was just having some fun...do YOU think you look good??
MysticOcean4You · 31-35, F
@Docdon23 Well I have some people that compliment in saying I"m beautiful in Real Life but not sure if I believed that. I do have some low self esteem because of someone in the past..
Docdon23 · M
@MysticOcean4You I could never say anything negative about how a girl looks--hey, if I didn't like it or was not attracted, then i would break it off, not insult you or he or make anyone feel bad!!! the world needs more kindness and love, and less hate and hurt!!!!
Docdon23 · M
@MysticOcean4You One more thought--because I, like you, sometimes let what others or a partner thinks or does or says bother me--a very wise person once told me, we cannot control what others do or say, all we can control is how we react, and we should never put our emotions and feelings in the hands of someone else, especially someone who insults or hurts us!!!