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Mamapolo2016 · F
I would:
call the police.
turn on all outside lights
invite her in and ask her to take off coat, hat, boots, anywhere she could conceal a weapon and put those items in a closet or out of reach
call a close neighbor to keep an eye on the outside or come over
keep my distance in case it IS a scam
Years ago this did happen and she was in trouble and I just let her in and called the cops
That was then and this is now
call the police.
turn on all outside lights
invite her in and ask her to take off coat, hat, boots, anywhere she could conceal a weapon and put those items in a closet or out of reach
call a close neighbor to keep an eye on the outside or come over
keep my distance in case it IS a scam
Years ago this did happen and she was in trouble and I just let her in and called the cops
That was then and this is now
@Mamapolo2016 Smart.
JollyRoger · 70-79, M
@Mamapolo2016 Not much to say except that once the person is inside your house nobody else is going to know what's going on and you might not get the chance to call that neighbor. Like I said... I appreciate people helping people but you have to protect yourself against the ones who want to help themselves to your belongings. Easiest to leave them outside as nobody they don't already know is going to come hurt them on your doorstep - if that happens then it would be someone they already know.
So... give them the shelter of your porch/doorstep and watch to see what they do... if they wander away then they aren't afraid (are they?). That should tell you something. Then, after a short while (remember - nothing has changed while waiting), ask them if they still want you to call the police because by that time they will have assessed the situation and may have changed their mind. No need for the police to attend a 911 call to ask you questions - it's the other person's problem.
So... give them the shelter of your porch/doorstep and watch to see what they do... if they wander away then they aren't afraid (are they?). That should tell you something. Then, after a short while (remember - nothing has changed while waiting), ask them if they still want you to call the police because by that time they will have assessed the situation and may have changed their mind. No need for the police to attend a 911 call to ask you questions - it's the other person's problem.
Mamapolo2016 · F
@JollyRoger Possibly because I've lived most of ny life in places where the police could only arrive in time to draw the chalk outline - I decided some time ago I would prefer that the epitaph on my tombstone read "She got involved,"
rather than "She lived to be 110."
I can't see what difference it makes whether the person who harms the theoretical woman is someone she knows or not.
In prosecuted murder cases, something like 80% of victims knew their killer. I don't think that makes them less dead.
rather than "She lived to be 110."
I can't see what difference it makes whether the person who harms the theoretical woman is someone she knows or not.
In prosecuted murder cases, something like 80% of victims knew their killer. I don't think that makes them less dead.
JollyRoger · 70-79, M
@Mamapolo2016 I agree. However, the premise here was not that a deadly threat was made - only that the woman appeared and asked you to call the police because she was afraid of being followed. I fully agree with you that when someone's life is in danger we act to help and not just watch - or worse - take a video of it.
Mamapolo2016 · F
@JollyRoger 😊🤗