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Fernie · F
Sure...until the grey hair and wrinkles show up...then lots and lots of them find a teenaged girl to hang with
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@LindaM Not sure if I understood your question right, may be the language gap.
I´ll try to answer as I got it and solely from my experience (my own and what I can see next to me).
Happens to a man to love with fierce passion a woman of his own generation?
Yes, definitely. I did, may be I still do.
But if I also look at my own eonce divorced friends on the second time of their lifes, their new partners are ALL women of about their ages.
May be the kind of people my friends are not so common ones.
Are there men that look for younger girs?
Yes, certainly.
The ones who are afraid of getting old and date "backwards" the ones who look like their dates when THEY were younger.
Their sense of manhood had been eroded.
NOT ONLY by age!
The hidden dream of almost every man is to become a moderate hero to a woman.
They FAILED to be so with their previous partner. (Please, no one anwer that this should come from within each individual: a totally nonsensense cliché).
So they intent to dazzle younger ones with their "experience", a fictional hope.
That´s why in my circle, we tell each other: Do young girls increasingly hit on you? That´s an unequivocal sign that you are getting OLD, my friend!
Sorry for the boring "essay".
Again, is not may case at all.
I´ll try to answer as I got it and solely from my experience (my own and what I can see next to me).
Happens to a man to love with fierce passion a woman of his own generation?
Yes, definitely. I did, may be I still do.
But if I also look at my own eonce divorced friends on the second time of their lifes, their new partners are ALL women of about their ages.
May be the kind of people my friends are not so common ones.
Are there men that look for younger girs?
Yes, certainly.
The ones who are afraid of getting old and date "backwards" the ones who look like their dates when THEY were younger.
Their sense of manhood had been eroded.
NOT ONLY by age!
The hidden dream of almost every man is to become a moderate hero to a woman.
They FAILED to be so with their previous partner. (Please, no one anwer that this should come from within each individual: a totally nonsensense cliché).
So they intent to dazzle younger ones with their "experience", a fictional hope.
That´s why in my circle, we tell each other: Do young girls increasingly hit on you? That´s an unequivocal sign that you are getting OLD, my friend!
Sorry for the boring "essay".
Again, is not may case at all.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@Fernie Not defensive at all.
I never bought the old patriarcal myths.
Why should I buy the new "à la mode" symetrical nonsense?
This stuff is not mainly individual but social.
I´ve already payed for behaving against both frivolous opposed mainstream and equally dumb views.
I have, personally, nothing more to loose.
So I tell my mind with scarce filters, no fear, not defensive.
I never bought the old patriarcal myths.
Why should I buy the new "à la mode" symetrical nonsense?
This stuff is not mainly individual but social.
I´ve already payed for behaving against both frivolous opposed mainstream and equally dumb views.
I have, personally, nothing more to loose.
So I tell my mind with scarce filters, no fear, not defensive.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@Fernie My friend,
My family, both sides, have(since ever) bold women and bold men that choosed and valued each other as peers.
So my ancestors as my daughters.
I had past and living examples on what is posible to choose and live against mainstream.
And my own fight to build mature relationships gave me more clues, even and perhaps cos of the failures, than any abstract claims on what SHOUD be but few know HOW TO.
What I know for certain cos I´d been there is that when about relationships, both gender clash and all gender unilateral symetrical views on this is as one-eyed as the Cyclops.
With my true deep rooted respect and admiration for all woman and you, enough said from my side.
My family, both sides, have(since ever) bold women and bold men that choosed and valued each other as peers.
So my ancestors as my daughters.
I had past and living examples on what is posible to choose and live against mainstream.
And my own fight to build mature relationships gave me more clues, even and perhaps cos of the failures, than any abstract claims on what SHOUD be but few know HOW TO.
What I know for certain cos I´d been there is that when about relationships, both gender clash and all gender unilateral symetrical views on this is as one-eyed as the Cyclops.
With my true deep rooted respect and admiration for all woman and you, enough said from my side.