To those of you that believe women and men cannot be just friends.

@SW-User I suppose it may be a bit different for me because I was a musician in bands, so we’re sort of like a family in many ways, but the best way for me was to early in the relationship bring them in with everybody so that we’re all friends. That way it’s not a competition because they also value the friendship too. I’m not sure if that works outside of bands but it always worked for us. ✌️

@SW-User Except my last drummer’s girl. She was a total stuck up bitch but he was kind of a dick too, so no loss there really.

@JustGoneNow It sounds like a good strategy and maybe worked because the others were also work colleagues so i guess your partner knew you couldn't really avoid them.

But i've found with female friends that their partners were anything from uncomfortable to very jealous of them having male friends that knew them really well. With male friends it wasn't about jealousy, it was more about their partner wanting couples as friends or possibly also not wanting them to hang out with a single guy who they thought might lead them astray (which isn't me btw). Yet when i was married it was really easy having lots of couples as friends.

@SW-User Yeah, I agree. It did work really well but bands are like a different universe so I’m not sure how that would work in real world.

@JustGoneNow I think the band world would be much more accepting than the real world, although the band world would have a lot of pressures too, especially if your in a band and getting a lot of attention from fans and your partner would have to be cool with that.

@SW-User That was pretty difficult for my girlfriend Toni because she wasn’t in the band but ran gigs with us. Somewhat hard for my boyfriend Jacob later but he was rhythm guitar in the band and got a lot of attention too. Plus he was way more confident in himself than Toni. She acted all confidence but inside had real self esteem issues, even though it was stupid because she was gorgeous. Jacob was easily the most attractive guy I've ever dated & I honestly have no idea why he adored me like he did. Made me feel like a princess.🦋

@SW-User I really miss that.

@JustGoneNow I miss being appreciated by someone too. I played in a cover band for a while and even got to work on a cruise ship once. What kind of music did you play?

@SW-User Industrial Metal. *giggles* ✌️

@JustGoneNow Cool! I like Rammstein although it isn't the style i played. I did weddings and private functions mostly, so it was pretty boring but the money was ok.

@SW-User I’m glad you got to perform too. ✌️ Our sound was more a combination of the dark edgy Industrial Metal of Nine Inch Nails mixed in with the Melodic Metal of Evanescence. It was a really cool sound. Almost like a female vocaled Fear Factory.

@JustGoneNow Sounds awesome. How long did you play for? and when did you stop?

@SW-User played guitar from 15 to 31 (so 16 years) and in bands from 19 to 31 (so 12 years) Started up again almost a year ago now. Playing but no band.