Somehow the abuser always makes you feel as if it's your fault they are hurting you .... and Im sure her self esteem is gone.... and most of these woman are co-dependants - they need the abuser... 😔
It's all so sad 😢

As sad as it is for some that's all they know and expect.

First an event occurs where the abuser feels anger, resentment, etc. Second, the abuser expresses that verbally, physically emotionally. If it ended there, the person who was abused would just clear off like a shot [b]but [/b]then the abuser starts with all that feeling guilty nonsense, 'sorry, sorry, I'll never do it again', false promises, blah, blah, blah. The abuser begins the make up stage, for the women, it's the flowers, the bracelet, and for the men, the angle-grinder, the new oil change for his Dodge charger! All is hunky-dory! The abused person feels great. An undeniable feeling of elation, a massive surge of intense emotion gripping the whole being in an almost fever-like frenzy!! Of course, in many cases the abuse starts all over again. Some abused people continue this cycle because of the desire to relive that tremndous surge of emotion which, to them, symbolises love and affection!

Sadly all they know and all they feel they deserve.

Some people will settle for an abuser rather than be alone....and the client may have grown up in an abusive home and has low self esteem.

That’s what they’re used to

That is all she knows. I would bet you a dollar that she grew up in an abusive home, and can only recognize love when it is coupled with abuse. It's very hard to overcome that, because it is so familiar.

So often it's because they think they don't deserve any better or because it's all they've ever known, so they don't know how to create new patterns.

Well Ned as they say in Yorkshire "there is nowt so queer as folk"

Sadly, it is a mental issue.