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Ever sent an explanation letter/email to a friend?

I emailed someone that I've known 8 years and who I became closer too over the last two years. As I noticed she started changing and becoming more 'self absorbed' and trying too hard to be fabulous. She was always down to earth and I thought she was confident in her self to not need to be like the girls on instagram.

Anyways I quit all the things we enjoyed drinking and clubbing. Consequently she stopped accepting invites out and kept messing up plans we made together.

I know I was a little down at times as I wasn't happy and my anxiety levels were through the roof consequent of the unsaid things and unusual new aggressive friends she had.

We last spoke on my birthday were she told me she had a new boyfriend which seemed to be her top priority for a while.
She became rather insensitive to me and I couldn't be bothered to pander to her request to do what she wanted.
So I fell off the radar changed my number and just moved on.
And although I have low days a lot of the time I feel more happy.

But I didn't want to leave things unsaid and weird. I just explained I was working on myself and needed to make some healthier changes and life's taking me in a new direction. I wished her and her family well. And left it at that.

End of really.
firefall · 61-69, M
That seems sensible, to say it out loud rather than assume she would intuit what's going on with you. Some people, you're friends with because of a shared interest, and when you outgrow that interest, you pretty much outgrow the person.
firefall · 61-69, M
@Peppa ah, that's a shame - I've seen that go two ways, for a woman single for a while, she seems to either grow and become more adult, more focussed on her needs beyond sex ... or she gets desparate and pushes boundaries in her need

which pretty much encapsulates the two of you, I think?
Peppa · 31-35, F
@firefall yes I wanted a relationship but having been hurt wanted one on my terms and for the benefit of my mental health. Whereas she was trying to find a way to just catch any guy that would take the bait. So she must have heard some negative feedback for such a dramatic change. :-( so better love than the love we have for ourselves
firefall · 61-69, M
@Peppa Just so. Hopefully she'll eventually have the same realisation as you
UndeadPrivateer · 31-35, M
I've never quite thought of it that way but yeah, I suppose I have. I prefer not to leave loose ends, especially with those I care about.
Peppa · 31-35, F
@UndeadPrivateer I doubt she'll respond but it was something I needed to do. Part of my growing up. Instead of just walking away and 'ghosting' as they call it.

 
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