Can being honest ever get you in trouble ?

@fazer1k I agree with that, so that would be their fault then right?

[quote]if honesty gets them into trouble it will only be because they said or did something wrong in the first place.[/quote]
Not necessarily @fazer1k

@Stark Absolutely.

@SW-User Fair enough. Can you offer an example?

@fazer1k My own mother.. I get falsely accused of.. things I’d rather not say. And if I try to clarify my position it only gets worse. So I’ve learnt to just keep my mouth shut.. and I’ve distanced myself so it doesn’t happen as often anymore.

@SW-User That's the same thing. Your mother thinks you did something wrong and that's why she's annoyed.

@fazer1k When I didn’t do anything wrong

@SW-User Ha! That's between you and your mother. But I take your point. Honesty can get you into trouble when [i]you[/i] don't think you have done anything wrong but someone else does.

@fazer1k very true

@fazer1k And that in no way means I deserve to get into trouble for being honest and not having done anything wrong

@SW-User That's a separate issue, really, for you and your mother to talk about and agree. She obviously believes you did do something wrong until you manage to convince her otherwise.

@fazer1k My point being if someone gets into trouble for telling the truth it isn’t necessarily their fault

@SW-User I've altered my response slightly to clarify.

The question was about whether honesty can get you into trouble, not about whether any trouble it gets one into is deserved - and that is the spirit in which I answered the question.

@SW-User that situation just sounds really controlling, if someone didn’t believe me even if it’s someone as important as my mother I wouldn’t tolerate them convincing me that I’m wrong when I’m not or when I’m telling the truth.

@Stark It is.. but I figured how to handle it.. it’s to not argue cause it’s pointless. So I don’t have to deal with it anymore

@SW-User eitherway that sucks.

@Stark yeah.. but I don’t really care what she thinks anymore

@SW-User good 🙂

👌@fazer1k

@SW-User Good luck with your mother. If you think she is being unfair perhaps talking it through (calmly) with her would help. Is this happening because your mother doesn't believe what you tell her, or is it that she does believe you but thinks it was wrong anyway (even if you don't think it was wrong). If it's because she doesn't believe you that's a tough one to get around and maybe you need someone else to back you up and confirm that you are being truthful. If she believes what you say but thinks it was wrong then it sounds as though you both need to revisit and understand the boundaries better. I don't know your exact circumstances but while you are reliant on your mother, and especially if you are a minor, she will have the right to set reasonable boundaries.

@fazer1k I’m not a minor lol.. gonna be 20 in a few weeks but as long as I’m in college I am still dependent on my parents. And it’s ‘cause she doesn’t believe me

@SW-User I didn't think you were a minor - just considering the possibility as not everyone is truthful about their age.

I feel for you there - kind of insulting not to be believed, especially by your own mother. You ought to be able to do pretty much whatever you like at 20, I would have thought! Good luck, anyway. 🙂