Where did all this self blame crap come from?

We are like plants. There is no past life memories...it is past family memories. You are remembering things that happened to your ancestors. if your parents beat or molested or raped you, IT ISN'T YOUR FAULT HOW THIS EFFECTS YOU. If your doctors poo poo every ache and pain you have and treat you like you are argumentative for asking a question, IT ISN'T YOUR FAULT HOW THIS EFFECTS YOU. If your friends and co-workers are jealous of you for some stupid reason (and there is always some stupid reason) and they stab you in the back and lie about you, IT ISN'T YOUR FAULT HOW THIS EFFECTS YOU.

For God's sake and for your own sake, stop listening to these idiots that claim that your feelings and reactions to horrible things is somehow YOUR fault. it isn't.

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PoetryNEmotion · F

Whose fault are your reactions then?

LILY61

@PoetryNEmotion it is a compilation of things. but telling people that everything in their lives is their own fault and they should take all responsibility for it is just wrong.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@LILY61 I would have to know more. This is what I think: many people blame everything upon others. How they were born. How their parents raised them. A lack of toys as children. It gets ridiculous. At some point, a person has to take responsibility for their life for themself. I don't know if you mean something like this or not. A person can do most anything. If a person has problems, get help with dealing with them. Don't spend one's whole life whining and complaining. Do something.

LILY61

@PoetryNEmotion how you were raised is the fault of the people who raised you. you didn't raise yourself. your parents decided what kind of relationship you have with them. if you are standing somewhere and someone attacks you, anything that occurs from that is that attackers fault. if you get hit by a car...or lightening...it isn't your fault unless you were doing something ridiculous at the time. and all of these things leave a permanent mark on you. if you try to be the best you that you can be...that is all there is and you should not blame yourself for short comings that have nothing to do with you.THE FIRST PERSON YOU HAVE TO FORGIVE AND STOP BLAMING IS YOURSELF...

PoetryNEmotion · F

@LILY61 I understand what you are saying. I think placing blame is really, in the long run, not helping oneself. So, yes, I agree to be the best you can be, keep trying, and move forward.

LILY61

@PoetryNEmotion but it is impossible to move forward until you reconcile with the past

PoetryNEmotion · F

@LILY61 Listen. Some times you just have to know that there is no closure. You man up or woman up or whatever you want to call it. You become an adult. You move on. Forward. That's all I have to say. Move forward. Leave it behind. And don't look back.

LILY61

@PoetryNEmotion that is what my stalkers are telling me. to get over what happened. then they follow me to what ever job, relationship or neighborhood and go person to person and lie about me. i can't get over what is still on going and no one will help me

PoetryNEmotion · F

@LILY61 I cannot help you, girl. Notify the police. Take their advice. Move far away if necessary. Do what needs to be done. Good luck.

LILY61

@PoetryNEmotion thanks, i tried that. didn't work

PoetryNEmotion · F

@LILY61 There is a solution to this. You just haven't found it yet. Keep working. And who believes all these lies? Geez.

LILY61

@PoetryNEmotion everyone believes it. there are hundreds of them and one of me. i was beautiful and shy and brilliant. they took my brain my beauty and now i have nothing