@sterling dude, it's human nature to lash out at people. it doesn't make you a bad person. sometimes we lose it, sometimes we can't hold things in anymore because it's hard and is a huge weight on your shoulders. some things need to be said, holding everything in is unhealthy. just cuz someone says something mean, doesn't automatically mean they're mean. like I said, nobody is perfect, we're gonna have bad days, we're gonna say mean things. you don't choose to lash out, it just happens. feelings come out sometimes.

@sterling I am a nice person, I'm not being arrogant. people are allowed to compliment themselves. I'm one of the most insecure people ever, I hate everything about myself and never say anything nice to myself either. but I do know I'm a nice person so I'm allowed to embrace that

It's fine to act out sometimes, I'm not condemning anyone for that. But for crying out loud, don't justify it. Don't say "that's okay" or "I was right to do that" it was a mistake and they need to acknowledge it as exactly that: a mistake. The moment people start feeling like it's not their fault or they blame other people. When they create that distance? When they don't allow themselves to be humble, and instead turn to pride? That's what creates the worst people. It's easy to do awful things or accept these things when you don't see yourself being wrong. Nice people don't justify cruel treatment of anyone, no matter how much they messed up.

That quote you chose, the author of it? I don't see them calling their bitchy behavior a mistake. Maybe they thought it was? If so, then they're terrible at communicating their real feelings. Because as I said, that quote sounds arrogant, not nice. They should try something like. "I wish you understood how much you hurt me." Or "I'm sorry I'm being mean, but you're not considering how I feel." Not "Hey since I'm such a nice person, you screwed up here. So that gives me the right to be mean." That's just how I see it.

I'm not expecting perfection. I'm just saying, when you choose to lash out? You're not being a nice person. You may be nice in general or most of the time, sure, but don't use that to justify being mean to someone just because they're doing something wrong. You're not justified, in every moment you attack? You're just as bad as them. No better. So don't act like doing that to people is okay just because you have a good track record.

Nice people generally have humility. They know they can be wrong. The author of this quote sounds like they're saying. "If I'm a bitch, that's okay because I'm right and its your fault, not mine." That's the message I got. The other person needs to ask themselves why yet you're being a bitch? How does that make sense? Because you're blaming the other person before yourself? That's not nice at all.

@sterling obviously if this person is being a bitch to you, it's not for no reason. nice people know how to be respectful and usually don't say anything, but if someone is doing something to make them upset, hurt, pissed off, angry, or anything because of a certain person, then that person needs to look back at what they said or what they were doing to make them act like that

That sounds more arrogant than nice to me.

@sterling nice people aren't perfect, nobody is perfect. sometimes they do lash out because they've been holding so much back. there's nothing wrong with lashing out, as long as it's not all the time. just because someone acts like a bitch once, doesn't make them mean or a bitch. they're human and get angry sometimes

@sterling I never said that they don't say that it was a mistake. when I'm mean I actually feel bad Bc I'm not like that, and I actually do apologize, even sometimes when I know that I shouldn't be apologizing

The meanest people are that way because they think they're justified. Those who are truly nice don't encourage more problems by acting out at mistreatment.